1 00:00:01,851 --> 00:00:16,851 Fixed & Synced by bozxphd.Enjoy The Flick 2 00:00:17,852 --> 00:00:21,620 Some new words out there you probably need to hurry up and get hip to. 3 00:00:21,622 --> 00:00:24,356 - Okay. - Uh, sexting. 4 00:00:24,358 --> 00:00:26,492 Sexting is out there now. You familiar with that? 5 00:00:26,494 --> 00:00:29,028 Explain to those that may not know... 6 00:00:29,030 --> 00:00:30,496 what sexting is. 7 00:00:30,498 --> 00:00:32,998 Sexting is when you text sexy. 8 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:34,333 - You know what I'm saying? - Like what? 9 00:00:34,335 --> 00:00:35,367 Like, "Boy, what you got on?" 10 00:00:35,369 --> 00:00:37,569 "Ooh, I got on something, you know?" 11 00:00:38,806 --> 00:00:41,974 It's your favorite big booty, Alexis Texas, 12 00:00:41,976 --> 00:00:43,776 and I wanna sext with all of you. 13 00:00:43,778 --> 00:00:46,412 The reason I think people engage in sexting 14 00:00:46,414 --> 00:00:48,180 is the reason that people engage in 15 00:00:48,182 --> 00:00:50,582 all sorts of electronic communication behind the screen. 16 00:00:50,584 --> 00:00:52,584 There's immediacy to it that's great. 17 00:00:52,586 --> 00:00:54,720 It's like window shopping. All you do is kind of like, 18 00:00:54,722 --> 00:00:56,522 "Oh, I like that. I like that." You know. 19 00:00:56,524 --> 00:00:58,424 It's like, "Oh, I'm just gonna go ahead and try that on." 20 00:00:58,426 --> 00:01:02,294 It gets me through the day. It makes me feel good about myself. 21 00:01:02,296 --> 00:01:05,431 - It's a form of seduction. - Exactly! That's what I said. 22 00:01:05,433 --> 00:01:06,832 "I'm thinking of you." 23 00:01:06,834 --> 00:01:10,235 "I want you right now, but you're not here." 24 00:01:10,237 --> 00:01:11,570 "Can't wait till you get home." 25 00:01:11,572 --> 00:01:13,005 You know, it's not like, 26 00:01:13,007 --> 00:01:15,674 we met in an airplane, and now we're in the bathroom fucking. 27 00:01:15,676 --> 00:01:17,643 It's all about the build. 28 00:01:17,645 --> 00:01:21,046 There's a sense of safety. There's a glass screen in front of you, 29 00:01:21,048 --> 00:01:23,282 and you don't see the person at the other end. 30 00:01:23,284 --> 00:01:25,084 So what you see is a reflection of you. 31 00:01:25,086 --> 00:01:26,752 It's sexy. Who doesn't like 32 00:01:26,754 --> 00:01:30,489 hearing or seeing something sexual about somebody that they're interested in? 33 00:01:30,491 --> 00:01:32,925 The idea of lovers communicating 34 00:01:32,927 --> 00:01:36,195 secret little messages is as old as writing. 35 00:02:19,173 --> 00:02:22,741 Sexting, first of all, can be either verbal or visual. 36 00:02:22,743 --> 00:02:26,178 I kinda have a different feeling about both of them. 37 00:02:26,180 --> 00:02:28,013 From the verbal side, 38 00:02:28,015 --> 00:02:31,049 sometimes I think it's good for people to be able, behind a screen, 39 00:02:31,051 --> 00:02:33,919 to say things they might not be able to say to someone's face. 40 00:02:33,921 --> 00:02:36,388 Most of the sexting that's going on 41 00:02:36,390 --> 00:02:39,358 tends to be healthy, in my opinion. 42 00:02:39,360 --> 00:02:43,395 I think a lot of people are doing it to keep their love lives active, 43 00:02:43,397 --> 00:02:45,664 and to let their partners know 44 00:02:45,666 --> 00:02:48,200 that they're interested and aroused by them. 45 00:02:48,202 --> 00:02:50,002 So I think, absolutely, it's healthy. 46 00:02:50,004 --> 00:02:52,771 Since I just moved from Virginia to here, 47 00:02:52,773 --> 00:02:54,039 I don't have the connection 48 00:02:54,041 --> 00:02:56,408 with the person that I was dealing with at the time. 49 00:02:56,410 --> 00:03:00,012 So we're constantly, always, sending little things back and forth 50 00:03:00,014 --> 00:03:02,314 to each other every day. 51 00:03:02,315 --> 00:03:04,615 I learned about sexting through my friends in high school. 52 00:03:04,618 --> 00:03:08,187 It was, like, not really an adrenaline rush, I guess. 53 00:03:08,189 --> 00:03:11,823 I mean, maybe a little bit, but more of like an approval, too. 54 00:03:11,825 --> 00:03:14,593 Like, I send a photo, and they send back, 55 00:03:14,595 --> 00:03:16,395 um, which means that they're interested. 56 00:03:16,397 --> 00:03:19,932 There's an anticipation aspect to it. 57 00:03:19,934 --> 00:03:21,833 The back and forth exchange 58 00:03:21,835 --> 00:03:24,002 instead of having everything so instantaneous. 59 00:03:24,004 --> 00:03:28,273 I think it builds arousal to have that anticipation. 60 00:03:28,275 --> 00:03:30,242 The idea that men are more visual 61 00:03:30,244 --> 00:03:32,578 and that women need to be stimulated through their mind, 62 00:03:32,580 --> 00:03:34,313 is completely a stereotype. 63 00:03:34,315 --> 00:03:37,182 Of course, there are women that prefer to be stimulated more emotionally, 64 00:03:37,184 --> 00:03:40,052 and there are men that prefer to see a sexy picture. 65 00:03:40,054 --> 00:03:42,888 But there's also the opposite situation as well. 66 00:03:42,890 --> 00:03:46,291 It's really a per person and preference based situation. 67 00:03:46,293 --> 00:03:50,629 I'm not really dating or doing anything, so it's necessary right now. 68 00:03:50,631 --> 00:03:52,764 'Cause I'd be so lonely without it. 69 00:03:52,766 --> 00:03:57,369 I haven't been out on a date, a real date, since 1984. 70 00:03:57,371 --> 00:03:59,371 Do you have any advice 71 00:03:59,373 --> 00:04:02,207 that you can offer me before I put myself out there? 72 00:04:02,209 --> 00:04:04,843 Sexting is out there now. You familiar with that? 73 00:04:04,845 --> 00:04:05,811 I've heard of it, yes. 74 00:04:05,813 --> 00:04:07,145 - You've heard of it? - Yes. 75 00:04:07,147 --> 00:04:10,015 You're gonna have to participate. 76 00:04:10,017 --> 00:04:14,152 What's interesting is they're not finding any profile of the "sexter." 77 00:04:14,154 --> 00:04:17,089 It's not particularly one kind of person. 78 00:04:17,091 --> 00:04:19,391 It seems to cut across many ages. 79 00:04:19,393 --> 00:04:21,326 It cuts across ethnic backgrounds. 80 00:04:21,328 --> 00:04:23,962 It cuts across everything. 81 00:04:23,963 --> 00:04:26,597 It's really an activity that I think is going to start to increase more and more 82 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:30,836 as people feel more of a connection through their devices 83 00:04:30,838 --> 00:04:32,237 to the rest of their world. 84 00:04:32,239 --> 00:04:35,140 There's something really fun and sexy 85 00:04:35,142 --> 00:04:37,209 bringing sexting into a relationship, 86 00:04:37,211 --> 00:04:40,245 and teasing the person while they're not allowed to get to you. 87 00:04:40,247 --> 00:04:42,614 If they're stuck at work, or something like that. 88 00:04:42,616 --> 00:04:46,084 And then you waiting in an outfit, you know, when they come home. 89 00:04:46,086 --> 00:04:49,821 It's... That's a really nice way to spark up a relationship. 90 00:04:49,823 --> 00:04:53,358 The most appealing thing about sexting is maybe, um... 91 00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:55,794 It's kind of like going to Costco and getting a sample. 92 00:04:55,796 --> 00:04:59,231 You know, I don't wanna buy the entire Hungry-Man meal, 93 00:04:59,233 --> 00:05:03,101 but if I can get a little taste of the macaroni, a little taste of the turkey, 94 00:05:03,103 --> 00:05:04,803 then, okay, I think I like this. 95 00:05:04,805 --> 00:05:07,339 We both know it's going to end up here. 96 00:05:07,341 --> 00:05:09,841 We're going to end up on bed, doing it. Got it. 97 00:05:09,843 --> 00:05:13,045 What mood will we be in when we get there? 98 00:05:13,047 --> 00:05:16,882 Is it pursuit and capture? Are we gonna be two goofy young kids? 99 00:05:16,884 --> 00:05:19,985 Are we two sophisticated people of the world? 100 00:05:19,987 --> 00:05:22,888 Am I gonna be a World War II spy, you're gonna be an officer? 101 00:05:22,890 --> 00:05:26,725 In what way are we gonna go where we're gonna go? 102 00:05:26,727 --> 00:05:28,694 When I open the door, it's like, "Whoa!" 103 00:05:28,696 --> 00:05:32,798 "This amazing person who showed up at my doorstep is gonna take me away now!" 104 00:05:32,800 --> 00:05:35,233 And you get to walk in and be the guy who takes her away now 105 00:05:35,235 --> 00:05:40,405 because all that boring... The important yet dull stuff has been handled. 106 00:05:40,407 --> 00:05:44,476 If you're a really shy person but you wanna learn how to dirty talk in bed, 107 00:05:44,478 --> 00:05:46,044 start doing it over a text. 108 00:05:46,046 --> 00:05:47,946 You know, just little things like that. 109 00:05:47,948 --> 00:05:50,716 If you're not so confident in the bedroom, 110 00:05:50,718 --> 00:05:53,419 you wanna be a little more confident, 111 00:05:53,420 --> 00:05:56,121 doing your own little personal selfie photoshoots is a great way to do that, you know? 112 00:05:56,123 --> 00:06:02,494 See, this is an art, and this is a relationship that 113 00:06:02,496 --> 00:06:08,367 men and women have had since the beginning of mobile devices. 114 00:06:08,369 --> 00:06:10,286 Okay? 115 00:06:10,287 --> 00:06:12,204 I don't quite know when I learned about sexting. 116 00:06:12,206 --> 00:06:13,405 Or when it began. 117 00:06:13,407 --> 00:06:16,308 Shoot, when did cellphones start? 118 00:06:16,310 --> 00:06:19,778 Back when I was 14, I was on my Internet all the time. 119 00:06:19,780 --> 00:06:21,513 And it would start with chatting, 120 00:06:21,515 --> 00:06:24,149 but it would end up going to sexting, 121 00:06:24,151 --> 00:06:25,784 and I didn't realize it was that. 122 00:06:25,786 --> 00:06:29,988 But definitely IM chatting turned into some sexual stuff. 123 00:06:29,990 --> 00:06:31,823 I was really naive at first. 124 00:06:31,825 --> 00:06:36,161 You know, taking photos. I just thought I would take a photo, 125 00:06:36,163 --> 00:06:38,997 I would send it to this person and that was that. 126 00:06:38,999 --> 00:06:41,016 Only their eyes would see it. 127 00:06:41,017 --> 00:06:43,034 I think I was 17 when I first started sexting. 128 00:06:43,036 --> 00:06:45,337 I wasn't completely comfortable with it just yet. 129 00:06:45,339 --> 00:06:47,305 Like, he would say things, and it would, like, turn me on, 130 00:06:47,307 --> 00:06:49,107 but I never knew what to say back. 131 00:06:49,109 --> 00:06:52,010 I was a teenager when it became a prevalent thing. 132 00:06:52,012 --> 00:06:55,614 Um, it's kind of like a rite of passage with teenagers, I guess. 133 00:06:55,616 --> 00:06:59,518 I have a funny feeling that someone said, "Send me a sexy pic." 134 00:06:59,520 --> 00:07:03,255 You know, and being a girl, and being young and in her 20s, 135 00:07:03,257 --> 00:07:06,291 I'm pretty sure that I was just flattered by the attention 136 00:07:06,293 --> 00:07:08,260 and wanted to impress whoever it was asking. 137 00:07:08,262 --> 00:07:11,029 Really, I first learned about it through my children. 138 00:07:11,031 --> 00:07:14,433 My first time was a photo because I didn't know how to do it. 139 00:07:14,435 --> 00:07:17,636 I didn't know what to say, or what would be appropriate to say 140 00:07:17,638 --> 00:07:20,906 until I sent the photo and there were words sent back to me, 141 00:07:20,908 --> 00:07:22,908 and then I started. 142 00:07:22,909 --> 00:07:24,909 I had a cheap, uh, I think it was a Motorola Sliver phone. 143 00:07:24,912 --> 00:07:29,915 So, uh, you know she couldn't really see the intricate veins and details of my penis, 144 00:07:29,917 --> 00:07:31,950 uh, which is probably a good thing. 145 00:07:31,952 --> 00:07:35,153 There are ways that something like sexting could be healthy. 146 00:07:35,155 --> 00:07:37,088 You know, phone sex has been going on a long time. 147 00:07:37,090 --> 00:07:39,958 Think about long-distance relationships where couples might call each other 148 00:07:39,960 --> 00:07:41,760 and have a sexy conversation. 149 00:07:41,762 --> 00:07:43,995 It could be arousing. It can be bonding. 150 00:07:43,997 --> 00:07:45,730 So sexting can be the same thing. 151 00:07:45,732 --> 00:07:47,732 It's just a different form of medium. 152 00:07:47,734 --> 00:07:49,868 It's a different medium. It's a different way to communicate. 153 00:07:49,870 --> 00:07:52,971 I'm a big fan of using sexting as a tool. 154 00:07:52,973 --> 00:07:57,709 It's a new and most modern form of flirtation if it's used correctly. 155 00:07:57,711 --> 00:08:02,013 Basically, I think the best way to send a sex message is to be blunt about it. 156 00:08:02,015 --> 00:08:04,716 The most bluntest thing that you can say, 157 00:08:04,718 --> 00:08:06,418 you say to see the reaction. 158 00:08:06,420 --> 00:08:10,255 I'm trying to. Dot, dot, dot. 159 00:09:21,762 --> 00:09:23,828 First of all, we'd like to talk about. 160 00:09:23,830 --> 00:09:26,431 St. Louis region of the first quarter sales. 161 00:09:26,433 --> 00:09:29,534 Last quarter, the sales were up... 162 00:09:46,253 --> 00:09:48,720 First, we started with the answering machines, 163 00:09:48,722 --> 00:09:52,591 which was kind of good because if you really didn't wanna see somebody again, 164 00:09:52,593 --> 00:09:54,159 you didn't have to call 'em back. 165 00:09:54,161 --> 00:09:56,027 Then there was caller ID, 166 00:09:56,029 --> 00:09:58,730 and that was especially good. 167 00:09:58,732 --> 00:10:01,232 And you really didn't have to talk to them if you wanted to. 168 00:10:01,234 --> 00:10:06,705 We didn't have technology, but we had more personal interaction. 169 00:10:06,707 --> 00:10:08,440 Let me give you the history before... 170 00:10:08,442 --> 00:10:11,610 You think sexting, nobody did this before in the old days? 171 00:10:11,612 --> 00:10:13,945 I'll tell you. First of all, with the pictures. 172 00:10:13,947 --> 00:10:15,730 This is what you did. 173 00:10:15,731 --> 00:10:17,514 When you were a kid, there was no digital film. 174 00:10:17,517 --> 00:10:21,519 You couldn't just like, you know, take a picture of yourself, 175 00:10:21,521 --> 00:10:23,888 put it on the computer, something like that. 176 00:10:23,889 --> 00:10:26,256 It went on a film which means you had to bring it to the photo matte. 177 00:10:26,259 --> 00:10:28,560 You bring it to the neighborhood drug store 178 00:10:28,562 --> 00:10:30,595 and you give it to the lady behind the drug store 179 00:10:30,597 --> 00:10:34,099 where you buy all the cold medicine from, and all that other stuff. 180 00:10:34,101 --> 00:10:35,667 And you give it to them, 181 00:10:35,669 --> 00:10:38,703 and you just hope that they don't look at it before they give it to you. 182 00:10:38,705 --> 00:10:41,573 And when you go to pick up your pictures, you are worried. 183 00:10:41,575 --> 00:10:43,541 And the women at the back, they go... 184 00:10:43,543 --> 00:10:45,623 And you know that they just saw your dick. 185 00:10:47,814 --> 00:10:50,582 To fully understand the evolution of sexting, 186 00:10:50,584 --> 00:10:53,218 we have to go all the way back to the beginning. 187 00:10:53,220 --> 00:10:55,020 30,000 BC. 188 00:10:55,022 --> 00:11:00,025 The earliest known example of transmitted sexual imagery date back to cave paintings 189 00:11:00,027 --> 00:11:02,360 created in paleolithic times. 190 00:11:02,362 --> 00:11:06,431 1150 AD. The preferred method was the carrier pigeon. 191 00:11:06,433 --> 00:11:09,768 It's not a stretch to imagine two young lovers exchanging naughty words 192 00:11:09,770 --> 00:11:11,770 by means of an unsuspecting fowl. 193 00:11:11,772 --> 00:11:14,439 Although, the months long wait for a response, 194 00:11:14,441 --> 00:11:18,109 might have doused the flames of love just a bit. 195 00:11:18,111 --> 00:11:20,078 1909 AD. 196 00:11:20,080 --> 00:11:22,781 A clear proponent of the long-form sext, 197 00:11:22,783 --> 00:11:27,919 James Joyce was quite well-known for his saucy correspondence with his spouse, Nora, 198 00:11:27,921 --> 00:11:32,223 in which he employed similar prose found in more modern sext messages. 199 00:11:32,225 --> 00:11:35,427 "Nora, my love for you allows me to pray" 200 00:11:35,429 --> 00:11:39,297 "to the spirit of eternal beauty and tenderness mirrored in your eyes." 201 00:11:39,299 --> 00:11:42,901 "Want to fling you down under me in that soft belly of yours," 202 00:11:42,903 --> 00:11:47,105 "and fuck you up behind like a hog riding a sow." 203 00:11:50,043 --> 00:11:52,043 1948 AD. 204 00:11:52,045 --> 00:11:55,447 With the advent of instant film and the Polaroid camera, 205 00:11:55,449 --> 00:11:57,816 the sexter's cause was greatly advanced 206 00:11:57,818 --> 00:12:00,218 not only by the amount of time saved, 207 00:12:00,220 --> 00:12:03,655 but also by the lack of smirks from photo lab workers. 208 00:12:05,292 --> 00:12:07,225 1970 AD. 209 00:12:07,227 --> 00:12:10,361 A certain numerical sequence enjoyed prolific use 210 00:12:10,363 --> 00:12:12,430 with the invention of the pocket calculator 211 00:12:12,432 --> 00:12:16,201 beginning in 1970, and was popular with adolescents 212 00:12:16,203 --> 00:12:18,369 and less than mature mathematicians. 213 00:12:18,371 --> 00:12:24,342 The cleverly crafted sext, 8-0-0-8-5, AKA, BOOBS. 214 00:12:26,346 --> 00:12:28,246 1990 AD. 215 00:12:28,248 --> 00:12:31,382 Although the technology has existed since the late '50s, 216 00:12:31,384 --> 00:12:36,054 it wasn't until the '80s and '90s that pagers became more widely used. 217 00:12:36,056 --> 00:12:38,123 And not just for emergencies, 218 00:12:38,125 --> 00:12:43,328 lustful companions often used them to trade sexts of the alpha-numeric persuasion. 219 00:12:44,631 --> 00:12:46,765 1992 AD. 220 00:12:46,767 --> 00:12:49,768 22-year-old engineer, Neil Papworth, 221 00:12:49,770 --> 00:12:53,872 is noteworthy for having sent the very first text message in history. 222 00:12:53,874 --> 00:12:57,375 Using his computer to transmit the message to a colleague's phone, 223 00:12:57,377 --> 00:12:59,377 he typed "Merry Christmas." 224 00:12:59,379 --> 00:13:03,414 It's rumored the very next message was "naughty or nice?" 225 00:13:03,416 --> 00:13:05,350 But this is unconfirmed. 226 00:13:06,486 --> 00:13:08,953 2000 to 2002 AD. 227 00:13:08,955 --> 00:13:12,390 Even though MMS wouldn't be invented for another two years, 228 00:13:12,392 --> 00:13:15,126 consumer electronics manufacturer Sharp 229 00:13:15,128 --> 00:13:20,498 released the first cellphone with a camera, the J-HSO4 in 2000. 230 00:13:22,102 --> 00:13:23,968 2004 AD. 231 00:13:23,970 --> 00:13:28,873 An article aptly named "Textual Gratification" appearing in "Globe and Mail" 232 00:13:28,875 --> 00:13:33,211 is believed to contain the first ever documented use of the term "sext." 233 00:13:33,213 --> 00:13:37,348 As well, the term was officially added to the Oxford dictionary. 234 00:13:39,920 --> 00:13:42,287 In September 2011, 235 00:13:42,289 --> 00:13:46,691 two Stanford University students launched the popular app, Snapchat, 236 00:13:46,693 --> 00:13:50,829 which allows any picture to be sent to and viewed by friends, 237 00:13:50,831 --> 00:13:55,533 but only for a pre-determined length of time before being deleted. 238 00:14:00,607 --> 00:14:04,709 The mobile phone app, Snapchat, is proving to be massively popular amongst young people. 239 00:14:04,711 --> 00:14:07,212 The Electronic Privacy Information Center claims. 240 00:14:07,214 --> 00:14:11,416 Snapchat deceives users promising to delete photos 241 00:14:11,418 --> 00:14:13,284 but, really, leaving them available. 242 00:14:13,286 --> 00:14:16,955 At this point in time, Snapchat has attracted an estimated 82 million users, 243 00:14:16,957 --> 00:14:19,624 with the majority of them between the ages of 13 and 25. 244 00:14:19,626 --> 00:14:22,760 It's the beauty of what you call, you know, disposable media. 245 00:14:22,762 --> 00:14:24,395 That's what these instant apps are. 246 00:14:24,397 --> 00:14:27,298 Snapchat, you know, Secret, everything like that. 247 00:14:27,300 --> 00:14:29,167 There's protection in anonymity. 248 00:14:29,169 --> 00:14:30,735 Snapchat's probably not for me. 249 00:14:30,737 --> 00:14:31,970 So I don't think I need to do that. 250 00:14:31,972 --> 00:14:34,272 I'm already Instagramming, sexting, texting, e-mailing, 251 00:14:34,274 --> 00:14:35,773 sometimes Facebooking, old school. 252 00:14:35,775 --> 00:14:38,743 I don't use Snapchat. Let the kids have it. It's all for them. 253 00:14:38,745 --> 00:14:41,479 I receive a lot of sexts through Snapchat. 254 00:14:41,481 --> 00:14:42,614 Like what? 255 00:14:42,616 --> 00:14:46,084 Uh, you know, dick shots. 256 00:14:46,086 --> 00:14:47,819 Kind of stuff like that. 257 00:14:47,821 --> 00:14:50,288 That would be typical frustration, wouldn't it? 258 00:14:50,290 --> 00:14:51,990 You finally get the picture from the one girl, 259 00:14:51,992 --> 00:14:54,259 and it's the perfect picture. You're like, "This is awesome!" 260 00:14:54,261 --> 00:14:55,927 Then it's gone. That's the story of my life. 261 00:14:55,929 --> 00:14:58,463 I was married for 11 years. I know all about that shit. 262 00:14:58,465 --> 00:14:59,931 When you send a Snapchat, 263 00:14:59,933 --> 00:15:02,367 you can only open it once for as many seconds. 264 00:15:02,369 --> 00:15:05,703 Like, I can take a picture and choose how long people can view it for. 265 00:15:05,705 --> 00:15:08,573 Like, I can do it for one second or like ten seconds, 266 00:15:08,575 --> 00:15:10,074 and then they can never ever see it again. 267 00:15:10,076 --> 00:15:12,610 First, Mike, have you ever sexted on Snapchat? 268 00:15:15,582 --> 00:15:18,449 I'm afraid I can't answer that question. 269 00:15:18,451 --> 00:15:20,618 Snapchat. What do I think about Snapchat? 270 00:15:20,620 --> 00:15:23,288 Now that's the thing where your dick erases. 271 00:15:23,290 --> 00:15:25,524 Ain't that the thing, like, 272 00:15:25,525 --> 00:15:27,759 where you put your dick on and then it just vanishes? 273 00:15:27,761 --> 00:15:31,229 Hey, you can't do the time, don't do the crime. 274 00:15:31,231 --> 00:15:33,164 That's the way I feel about it. 275 00:15:33,166 --> 00:15:37,135 You know? Look, it's awfully convenient for you to just, you know, be... 276 00:15:37,137 --> 00:15:38,937 There are consequences to everything. 277 00:15:38,939 --> 00:15:43,107 You know, just think if Anthony Weiner had used Snapchat instead of Twitter, 278 00:15:43,109 --> 00:15:45,009 we might be calling him Mayor Weiner. 279 00:15:45,011 --> 00:15:47,645 - Might have. Might have. - That's it? 280 00:15:47,647 --> 00:15:51,382 I don't do it too much through text messages, like actual pictures, 281 00:15:51,384 --> 00:15:53,751 because then they have it there forever. 282 00:15:53,753 --> 00:15:55,320 They can show whoever the hell they want. 283 00:15:55,322 --> 00:15:57,422 Snapchat is my best friend, you know? 284 00:15:57,424 --> 00:15:59,824 Ten seconds or lower, you know. 285 00:15:59,826 --> 00:16:02,260 I kinda give them a glimpse, three seconds. 286 00:16:02,262 --> 00:16:03,795 And they be like, "Oh, send me more." 287 00:16:03,797 --> 00:16:05,330 And I'm like, "Well, you gotta send me some." 288 00:16:05,332 --> 00:16:08,666 Snapchat is definitely one of the more intense ones. 289 00:16:08,668 --> 00:16:11,169 'Cause it's gone, so I guess people feel more comfortable 290 00:16:11,171 --> 00:16:12,670 and are willing to do more things. 291 00:16:12,672 --> 00:16:14,772 Whenever I get a Snapchat picture, 292 00:16:14,774 --> 00:16:17,375 I don't screen-shot it because you can't. 293 00:16:17,377 --> 00:16:19,377 Then the girl can see that you screenshot it. 294 00:16:19,379 --> 00:16:22,146 So, therefore, if she sees that, then she won't send you another one again. 295 00:16:22,148 --> 00:16:26,084 See, I need these things, and sometimes when you can't find your glasses... 296 00:16:26,086 --> 00:16:27,852 You know what I mean? It's no good. 297 00:16:27,854 --> 00:16:30,722 I get a great picture. Now you're telling me it's gonna disappear in five seconds. 298 00:16:30,724 --> 00:16:32,724 Takes me 20 seconds to get my glasses. 299 00:16:32,726 --> 00:16:34,926 Use the app for what it's intended for. 300 00:16:34,928 --> 00:16:36,828 For pictures of sunsets and sexting. 301 00:16:36,830 --> 00:16:38,930 But a selfie on Snapchat, 302 00:16:38,932 --> 00:16:41,065 that "ish" disappears. Okay? 303 00:16:41,067 --> 00:16:42,867 So, like, I really don't get why you're sending it. 304 00:16:42,869 --> 00:16:45,436 So that I can go, "Yo. Yo, yo, remember that one time you looked good" 305 00:16:45,438 --> 00:16:47,272 "for seven seconds?" 306 00:16:47,273 --> 00:16:49,107 I'm actually a Tinder fan. Well, I don't use Snapchat. 307 00:16:49,109 --> 00:16:52,343 Mostly, it's Tinder. It's usually Tinder that I usually go through. 308 00:16:52,345 --> 00:16:54,178 I always get my numbers from Tinder, 309 00:16:54,180 --> 00:16:56,347 and then all of a sudden, start sexting from there. 310 00:16:56,349 --> 00:17:00,485 Sometimes it'll be a fail, sometimes it'll be a positive, and we'll see what happens. 311 00:17:00,487 --> 00:17:04,389 A new app called Tinder is quickly gaining traction. 312 00:17:04,391 --> 00:17:08,359 For those of you who are a little shy and need some help breaking the ice, 313 00:17:08,361 --> 00:17:10,828 this app just might be for you. 314 00:17:10,830 --> 00:17:12,964 Is Tinder a dating app? Okay. 315 00:17:12,966 --> 00:17:14,298 Is that what we're gonna "pretend"? 316 00:17:14,300 --> 00:17:17,869 Tinder is a "dating app?" All right. 317 00:17:17,870 --> 00:17:21,439 I like the idea of just like, hot, not, hot, not, hot, not, you know? 318 00:17:21,441 --> 00:17:23,341 I think random, like, 319 00:17:23,343 --> 00:17:26,711 "Hey, you're five miles away from me. Let's meet up and fuck" thing 320 00:17:26,713 --> 00:17:28,413 is kind of crazy. 321 00:17:28,415 --> 00:17:30,915 I'm on Tinder right now. Like, while I was waiting. 322 00:17:30,917 --> 00:17:32,884 Oh, I shouldn't say that. 323 00:17:32,885 --> 00:17:34,852 What do I think about Tinder? I think Tinder's great. 324 00:17:34,854 --> 00:17:36,454 It's awful. 325 00:17:36,456 --> 00:17:38,656 Uh, Tinder has taught me that I'm hideous. 326 00:17:38,658 --> 00:17:41,092 Yes, I'm on Tinder. I've gone on a couple of Tinder dates, 327 00:17:41,094 --> 00:17:43,861 and they've been fine, and gone nowhere. 328 00:17:43,863 --> 00:17:45,396 How are things with you? 329 00:17:45,398 --> 00:17:48,533 The applications itself is not dangerous. 330 00:17:48,535 --> 00:17:51,135 It's how people exercise their behaviors with the app. 331 00:17:51,137 --> 00:17:54,906 If somebody uses Tinder and meets somebody right away from the Tinder app. 332 00:17:54,908 --> 00:17:56,908 They meet at a bar and they have unprotected sex. 333 00:17:56,910 --> 00:17:58,776 Is Tinder dangerous? No. 334 00:17:58,778 --> 00:18:02,080 Is their behavior dangerous to themselves? Yes. 335 00:18:02,082 --> 00:18:04,715 There are people that get relationships off of Tinder, 336 00:18:04,717 --> 00:18:07,318 but it's an immediate gratification application. 337 00:18:07,320 --> 00:18:10,988 An application that caters to people that wanna meet up right away. 338 00:18:10,990 --> 00:18:13,070 What does that tell you about our culture? 339 00:18:22,735 --> 00:18:25,570 Okay, so you like this girl? 340 00:18:25,572 --> 00:18:27,271 - Yeah. - You want her. 341 00:18:27,273 --> 00:18:28,806 She wants you back. 342 00:18:28,808 --> 00:18:31,776 You're gonna sext her what? 343 00:18:31,778 --> 00:18:34,212 "I'm gonna shove nine inches of limp dick in your ass." 344 00:18:35,731 --> 00:18:37,247 "Your giant tits make me rock hard." 345 00:18:40,386 --> 00:18:43,521 How about, "You make me think dirty thoughts"? 346 00:18:43,523 --> 00:18:45,957 The dirty thought "I wanna fuck you tits" 347 00:18:45,959 --> 00:18:47,592 - is still in there. - Okay. 348 00:18:47,594 --> 00:18:51,362 But she can be like, "What kind of dirty thoughts?" 349 00:18:51,364 --> 00:18:54,665 She says, "You're making me hot, too." 350 00:18:54,667 --> 00:18:59,403 See? Think dirty things and text naughty things. 351 00:18:59,405 --> 00:19:01,539 All right. Okay, well, let's wait. 352 00:19:01,541 --> 00:19:03,841 - The waiting part is the hardest, isn't it? - Yeah. Oh, it's so hard. 353 00:19:03,843 --> 00:19:06,210 I mean, you know, yeah. 354 00:19:07,380 --> 00:19:10,581 Give her 20% and make her do 80. 355 00:19:10,583 --> 00:19:12,250 - Okay, Uh... - So you give her that thought 356 00:19:12,252 --> 00:19:17,121 and it gets her involved. As opposed to just being the canvas, it's a... 357 00:19:17,123 --> 00:19:19,390 - It's a give-and-take. Okay. All right. - Yes. 358 00:19:19,392 --> 00:19:21,926 Aah! 359 00:19:21,928 --> 00:19:24,328 A-ha! Keep that shit to myself. 360 00:19:24,330 --> 00:19:27,532 She's clearly is into you having dirty thoughts about her. 361 00:19:27,534 --> 00:19:30,668 Okay. Okay. 362 00:19:30,669 --> 00:19:33,803 So, now you just want to keep the "your tits" or "your ass" here. 363 00:19:33,806 --> 00:19:37,275 "I wanna paint your vagina like the Texas tunnel." 364 00:19:40,413 --> 00:19:44,348 She said, "Are we gonna have dinner and dessert?" Dot, dot, dot. 365 00:19:44,350 --> 00:19:45,316 Oh. 366 00:19:45,318 --> 00:19:47,418 Shit! Yeah. I sent it. 367 00:19:47,420 --> 00:19:49,187 - You did not. - I sent it. 368 00:19:49,189 --> 00:19:50,521 You did not send her a dick pic. 369 00:19:50,523 --> 00:19:51,789 No! 370 00:19:51,791 --> 00:19:53,291 "I'll be wearing a carnation..." 371 00:19:53,293 --> 00:19:54,559 "And you'll be wearing a smile." 372 00:19:54,561 --> 00:19:56,093 "And you'll be wearing a smile." 373 00:19:56,095 --> 00:19:57,862 Yes! 374 00:19:57,863 --> 00:20:00,183 She says, "Yes, I will be wearing a smile, and so will you." 375 00:20:00,967 --> 00:20:02,266 Thank you. 376 00:20:02,268 --> 00:20:03,668 Now I'm sending the dick pic. 377 00:20:10,843 --> 00:20:13,711 You have to use proper punctuation. 378 00:20:13,713 --> 00:20:16,047 Capitalize your first letter. 379 00:20:16,049 --> 00:20:17,448 In a sense, use a period. 380 00:20:17,450 --> 00:20:21,485 Maybe it's an age thing. I want complete grammar in my sexting. 381 00:20:21,487 --> 00:20:25,189 That lets me know that the person who's sexting me has a complete mind. 382 00:20:28,228 --> 00:20:29,860 Less is more. That's what I say. 383 00:20:29,862 --> 00:20:31,996 People always try to go on and keep going for it. 384 00:20:31,998 --> 00:20:35,366 And also, here's... When I say something clever and sexy, 385 00:20:35,368 --> 00:20:38,202 when you use it back to me, I'm like, "I just fed you material." 386 00:20:38,204 --> 00:20:39,637 That irritates the shit out of me. 387 00:20:39,639 --> 00:20:42,106 Come up with your own stuff. Keep it tight and simple, 388 00:20:42,108 --> 00:20:43,407 and always throw in a compliment. 389 00:20:43,409 --> 00:20:45,209 Words are good. Words are powerful. 390 00:20:45,211 --> 00:20:47,612 You don't need a picture. Words are good. 391 00:20:47,614 --> 00:20:50,047 If you're a creative writer, 392 00:20:50,049 --> 00:20:53,317 you can definitely make someone, you know, get into it. 393 00:20:53,319 --> 00:20:57,722 I find sexting to be a very powerful foreplay tool. 394 00:20:57,724 --> 00:20:59,657 Very powerful. Almost too much. 395 00:20:59,659 --> 00:21:02,159 Almost to the point where it's like, this is so good, 396 00:21:02,161 --> 00:21:05,129 the actual act can't hold water, 397 00:21:05,131 --> 00:21:07,898 which is why I don't really even do it as much anymore. 398 00:21:07,900 --> 00:21:12,303 'Cause it's like, this reality is disappointing. You know what I mean? 399 00:21:12,305 --> 00:21:16,073 Sexting is like foreplay. It's foreplay with your words. 400 00:21:16,075 --> 00:21:20,745 It's the best way you can verbally turn someone on without physically being there. 401 00:21:20,747 --> 00:21:24,915 I would say if you're new to sexting, don't, like, go really crazy. 402 00:21:24,917 --> 00:21:27,618 Like you're gonna choke her, slap her, spit on her, all those things. 403 00:21:27,620 --> 00:21:29,220 'Cause you might scare someone away. 404 00:21:29,222 --> 00:21:32,256 I would lightly, uh, tread first, 405 00:21:32,258 --> 00:21:36,394 and then, uh, work your way into those really dirty, dirty messages. 406 00:21:36,396 --> 00:21:38,729 I think girls are a little hesitant 407 00:21:38,731 --> 00:21:41,465 to be forward about sexting and stuff. 408 00:21:41,467 --> 00:21:44,902 They don't wanna be seen as a slut, or too forward. 409 00:21:44,904 --> 00:21:49,240 So if you make her feel comfortable and give her the go ahead, and tell her, 410 00:21:49,242 --> 00:21:53,944 "I think it's really sexy when you sent me back the little flirty text." 411 00:21:53,946 --> 00:21:57,014 She'll feel more inclined to keep going with it. 412 00:21:57,016 --> 00:21:58,649 Well, I don't send nude. 413 00:21:58,651 --> 00:22:01,252 Um, I don't send my vajayjay. 414 00:22:01,254 --> 00:22:03,521 I use my assets to just... 415 00:22:03,523 --> 00:22:05,656 That's mainly me. I'll just send you a ass shot. 416 00:22:05,658 --> 00:22:08,659 Like, "Oh, look at these new jeans," or, "Look at these panties." 417 00:22:08,661 --> 00:22:11,195 And flirt like that. Like more of just my ass, 418 00:22:11,197 --> 00:22:14,198 or me just being cute and freaky, like recording something. 419 00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:15,866 Oh, the guy? Oh, yeah, you can send me whatever. 420 00:22:15,868 --> 00:22:19,136 Oh, yeah. I wanna see it all. 421 00:22:19,137 --> 00:22:22,405 Yeah, there's a certain method before I, uh, go straight into the dick pics 422 00:22:22,408 --> 00:22:24,942 and filthy erotic stories. 423 00:22:24,944 --> 00:22:28,312 Um, you gotta, you know, kind of test the ground first. 424 00:22:28,314 --> 00:22:30,915 You start complimenting her a little bit. 425 00:22:30,917 --> 00:22:34,585 Start with the mind. Work your way up to the physical. 426 00:22:34,587 --> 00:22:38,222 And then, uh, hopefully she gives you something in return. 427 00:22:38,224 --> 00:22:39,824 You know, "Oh, I think you're cute." 428 00:22:39,826 --> 00:22:42,193 "Uh, I think you got a nice little figure." 429 00:22:42,195 --> 00:22:45,396 "Oh, yeah. I think you are kind of hot too." 430 00:22:45,398 --> 00:22:48,632 And that's kind of like, you know, that's a green light. 431 00:22:48,634 --> 00:22:51,035 I'm a pretty dominant, aggressive person. 432 00:22:51,037 --> 00:22:54,004 So I'm initially gonna ask you, 433 00:22:54,006 --> 00:22:57,141 "What do you want to do to me, or what have you thought about doing to me?" 434 00:22:57,143 --> 00:22:59,777 And if you don't give me a good enough answer to come off with, 435 00:22:59,779 --> 00:23:01,859 then I'm gonna stop the sexting from there. 436 00:23:02,982 --> 00:23:06,584 I have no idea how to maintain a relationship without texting, you know. 437 00:23:06,586 --> 00:23:07,852 Especially sexting. 438 00:23:07,854 --> 00:23:10,221 It's got pacing to it. You have to keep up the pace. 439 00:23:10,223 --> 00:23:13,424 You have to be creative. You can't use the same words over and over again. 440 00:23:13,426 --> 00:23:15,326 You know, you can't stop in the middle. 441 00:23:15,328 --> 00:23:16,527 Ladies. 442 00:23:21,968 --> 00:23:23,467 I might do a boobie, 443 00:23:23,469 --> 00:23:27,438 or maybe, you know, a butt shot or something like that real quick. 444 00:23:27,440 --> 00:23:29,557 And if he's asking for more, 445 00:23:29,558 --> 00:23:31,675 then I'll go through some other avenues and do some other things. 446 00:23:31,677 --> 00:23:33,411 Yeah. Different angles. 447 00:23:35,481 --> 00:23:39,083 I have like... I have like a... It's not really even a sexting thing. 448 00:23:39,085 --> 00:23:40,951 It's just like a language right now. 449 00:23:40,953 --> 00:23:42,486 It's like, "You gonna be up for a while?" 450 00:23:42,488 --> 00:23:43,754 "Yeah, you wanna come through?" 451 00:23:43,756 --> 00:23:45,890 And that's, uh... Now we know what's happening. 452 00:23:45,892 --> 00:23:47,925 And it's just, you know, very understood. 453 00:23:47,927 --> 00:23:49,660 It's very grown, so to speak. 454 00:23:49,662 --> 00:23:53,431 But I reserve my sexting for the people that I'm boning. 455 00:23:53,433 --> 00:23:55,599 I like butt. I like men's butt. 456 00:23:55,601 --> 00:23:58,202 So, they'll send me like... 457 00:23:58,204 --> 00:24:00,070 Nice little picture of the frame. 458 00:24:00,072 --> 00:24:01,505 Yeah, I like that. 459 00:24:01,507 --> 00:24:04,175 I mean, to me, that's really like, "Oh, sexy." 460 00:24:04,177 --> 00:24:07,311 It gives me a turn on. I like that. 461 00:24:07,313 --> 00:24:09,480 Is there something about sexting that annoys me? 462 00:24:09,482 --> 00:24:12,116 Yes. It doesn't happen enough in my life. 463 00:24:12,118 --> 00:24:15,920 Uh, other than that girl who sends me pictures of her boobs. 464 00:24:15,922 --> 00:24:18,189 Those are really good boobs, though. 465 00:24:18,190 --> 00:24:20,457 She likes to send me pictures of herself naked with the cat. 466 00:24:20,460 --> 00:24:22,293 Like, she's got this really hot picture she sent me 467 00:24:22,295 --> 00:24:23,327 where she's like arched up, 468 00:24:23,329 --> 00:24:25,162 and her cat's just lying in the middle of her. 469 00:24:25,164 --> 00:24:27,932 She's like, "Where are you? My kitty misses you." 470 00:24:27,934 --> 00:24:31,202 Normally, you know, she'll send a picture of her tits. 471 00:24:31,204 --> 00:24:33,404 I'll send back, you know, one of my pussy. 472 00:24:33,406 --> 00:24:35,840 It's really hot. I keep 'em. I masturbate to 'em. 473 00:24:35,842 --> 00:24:38,409 Very few people know how to sext. 474 00:24:38,411 --> 00:24:39,571 That's just the fact of it. 475 00:24:58,331 --> 00:25:02,032 People who don't know how to talk dirty also don't know how to sext. 476 00:25:02,034 --> 00:25:04,768 I wanna turn this TV off 477 00:25:04,770 --> 00:25:07,905 and turn on your vagina-vision. 478 00:25:07,907 --> 00:25:11,609 I used to try to get guys I used to date to talk dirty, 479 00:25:11,611 --> 00:25:14,512 and, um, you'd be surprised at how... 480 00:25:14,514 --> 00:25:18,482 If that's not something that comes to you naturally, 481 00:25:18,484 --> 00:25:20,084 it's a flop every time. 482 00:25:20,086 --> 00:25:23,587 Don't get me wrong. Some people have the talent to do it right, 483 00:25:23,589 --> 00:25:25,222 and some people don't. 484 00:25:25,224 --> 00:25:28,158 There are some moments when I'm reading through a text and I'm like, 485 00:25:28,160 --> 00:25:30,528 "Okay. Mm-hmm, mm-hmm, mm-hmm. Oh, yeah." 486 00:25:30,530 --> 00:25:31,962 And then it's like, wait, what? 487 00:25:40,873 --> 00:25:44,141 Okay, that really threw me for a loop. Like, that really turned me off. 488 00:25:44,143 --> 00:25:48,512 And then you have other people that like... It's like reading "50 Shades of Grey." 489 00:25:48,514 --> 00:25:53,751 It's just like a crazy, fuck, sex, romance novel. And you're like, "Oh, my god." 490 00:26:04,430 --> 00:26:08,866 There are some buzz words, and not in a good way, that I can't handle. 491 00:26:08,868 --> 00:26:10,501 Like, "suckle." 492 00:26:12,438 --> 00:26:14,238 You wanna suckle my breast? 493 00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:16,173 Uh-huh. You're not my child. 494 00:26:16,175 --> 00:26:17,875 That's not gonna... I can't... 495 00:26:17,877 --> 00:26:21,645 "I wanna watch you pleasure yourself while I suckle on your breasts." 496 00:26:21,647 --> 00:26:24,582 That's the worst sext ever in existence. 497 00:26:29,989 --> 00:26:31,755 There's a time and a place to understand 498 00:26:31,757 --> 00:26:34,291 somebody could be doing something. I'll give you an example. 499 00:26:34,293 --> 00:26:37,027 Couple of weeks ago, I was flying home from a gig. 500 00:26:37,029 --> 00:26:38,596 I'm in first class, 501 00:26:38,597 --> 00:26:40,164 sitting next to an older dude I've never met before. 502 00:26:40,166 --> 00:26:42,366 And of course, as soon as we land I'm turning on my phone, 503 00:26:42,368 --> 00:26:44,168 and he's looking at my phone. 504 00:26:44,169 --> 00:26:45,969 Which I think is rude, but whatever. I don't say anything to people. 505 00:26:45,972 --> 00:26:47,938 I never look at anybody else's phone. 506 00:26:47,940 --> 00:26:50,925 And, of course, it was one of those moments 507 00:26:50,926 --> 00:26:53,911 where one of my dudes thought it'd be a great idea to send me a picture of his big black cock. 508 00:26:53,913 --> 00:26:56,097 So I opened the picture. 509 00:26:56,098 --> 00:26:58,282 And I leave it open 'cause I know this old guy is looking at my phone. 510 00:26:58,284 --> 00:27:00,250 He's now horrified. He'll be like, "Oh, my god." 511 00:27:00,252 --> 00:27:01,885 That was not the time or the place 512 00:27:01,887 --> 00:27:03,787 because that guy knew I was traveling that day, 513 00:27:03,789 --> 00:27:05,322 and I really didn't need to see a cock shot. 514 00:27:05,324 --> 00:27:06,890 Just had four-hour layover. 515 00:27:06,892 --> 00:27:08,859 Our other flight was delayed. It was brutal. 516 00:27:08,861 --> 00:27:10,527 So you have to know time and place. 517 00:27:10,529 --> 00:27:12,963 It has to be in something engaging 518 00:27:12,965 --> 00:27:14,798 where how you got to this point 519 00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:17,201 where you feel it's necessary right now to send that cock shot. 520 00:27:17,203 --> 00:27:19,336 There's absolutely nowhere I wouldn't sext. 521 00:27:19,338 --> 00:27:22,156 I'm gonna be honest. 522 00:27:22,157 --> 00:27:24,975 Um, because the more inappropriate the location, the better. You know? 523 00:27:24,977 --> 00:27:28,646 Like, if I'm on a thing with someone, like, if we're having a sex thing, 524 00:27:28,648 --> 00:27:29,813 like put me in church. 525 00:27:29,815 --> 00:27:32,116 Um, oh, okay. Giving birth. 526 00:27:35,554 --> 00:27:38,989 If I'm giving birth and the head of my child is crowning out of my pussy, 527 00:27:38,991 --> 00:27:40,824 I probably wouldn't sext then. 528 00:27:40,826 --> 00:27:45,162 I will say that the most mundane moments in life are the best time to sext. 529 00:27:45,164 --> 00:27:48,999 You can make any monotonous job fun 530 00:27:49,001 --> 00:27:52,903 just by sneaking a couple of sex texts from your phone. 531 00:27:52,905 --> 00:27:56,707 My favorite time and place to sext 532 00:27:56,709 --> 00:28:00,044 is probably while at home by myself. 533 00:28:00,046 --> 00:28:02,446 My favorite time to sext, typically, 534 00:28:02,448 --> 00:28:05,783 is late afternoon into evening. 535 00:28:05,785 --> 00:28:09,319 When I'm drunk. Um, yeah. 536 00:28:09,321 --> 00:28:10,454 Here's what I say. 537 00:28:10,456 --> 00:28:12,623 You never go to the grocery store hungry, 538 00:28:12,625 --> 00:28:14,191 never text horny. 539 00:28:14,193 --> 00:28:16,560 I sext any time of the day. 540 00:28:16,562 --> 00:28:18,962 In the morning, in the afternoon. 541 00:28:18,964 --> 00:28:20,564 While I'm in the shower. 542 00:28:20,566 --> 00:28:23,434 It's cool too, 'cause my phone case is waterproof. 543 00:28:23,436 --> 00:28:25,202 So I can, like, just take my phone in the shower 544 00:28:25,204 --> 00:28:28,939 and send snaps in the shower to whoever. It's funny. 545 00:28:28,941 --> 00:28:30,407 I get a lot back. 546 00:28:30,409 --> 00:28:34,511 Like, immediately right back, I'll get snaps. Like, whatever. 547 00:28:34,513 --> 00:28:38,482 I don't, like, designate a time or a dojo to sext in. 548 00:28:38,484 --> 00:28:40,350 I just kinda sext whenever I want to. 549 00:28:40,352 --> 00:28:43,454 We're really... It's kinda on his lead. 550 00:28:43,456 --> 00:28:45,556 He'll hit me up, or, you know, talk to him on the phone. 551 00:28:45,558 --> 00:28:48,459 He'll be like, "Baby, send me a little something later on" 552 00:28:48,461 --> 00:28:52,062 "while I'm at work, so I can look at it when I'm on my break, or whatever." 553 00:28:52,064 --> 00:28:55,532 So, he'll usually start it out and it'll get me through the day. 554 00:28:55,534 --> 00:28:58,435 And then I'll start sending just random stuff just for fun, 555 00:28:58,437 --> 00:29:00,471 to see what his reaction is gonna be. 556 00:29:00,473 --> 00:29:03,373 And do it randomly, pretty much. 557 00:29:03,375 --> 00:29:06,276 Um... 558 00:29:07,546 --> 00:29:09,313 Maybe like... 559 00:29:09,315 --> 00:29:12,195 I have no limits. I don't care where I'm at, really. 560 00:29:12,852 --> 00:29:16,320 I don't know. I probably would in a lot of places. 561 00:29:16,322 --> 00:29:20,491 I mean, the only place, probably church 'cause I try not to look at my phone. 562 00:29:20,493 --> 00:29:23,393 I mean, I suppose if you go to church, you shouldn't sext in church. 563 00:29:23,395 --> 00:29:26,296 But I'm not really a regular attender, so that doesn't work for me. 564 00:29:26,298 --> 00:29:29,700 But if I'm there at home, oh, yeah, it's going down. Mm-hmm. 565 00:29:29,702 --> 00:29:32,603 I think you shouldn't... Maybe when someone's on stage, 566 00:29:32,605 --> 00:29:35,606 and you're supposed to be supporting someone, or something like that. Maybe. 567 00:29:35,608 --> 00:29:37,608 I don't wanna talk no more once you say that right. 568 00:29:37,610 --> 00:29:40,744 And I get that little feeling in my body and it goes up... 569 00:29:40,746 --> 00:29:44,081 Yeah, she tingling. Oh, it's time to go down. 570 00:29:44,083 --> 00:29:46,817 But other than that, I feel like, yeah, you can probably get it in. 571 00:29:46,819 --> 00:29:48,819 Depends on how fast you are. 572 00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:58,228 I have gotten surprise dick pics. Yeah, I have. 573 00:29:58,230 --> 00:30:01,198 It's shocking in the worst ways. 574 00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:02,900 I wanna see your dick for sure, 575 00:30:02,902 --> 00:30:05,202 but sometimes, the poses, one, 576 00:30:05,204 --> 00:30:08,572 or the places, two, are the most horrendous things. 577 00:30:08,574 --> 00:30:10,974 Or sometimes the way that your dick just looks in the picture. 578 00:30:10,976 --> 00:30:13,710 I think it would be funny to send my flaccid wiener. 579 00:30:13,712 --> 00:30:16,513 Would I do that? Just to everyone? I would do that to everyone. 580 00:30:16,515 --> 00:30:20,050 Dick pics are like the modern day flashing. 581 00:30:20,052 --> 00:30:23,720 So, usually flashers are like turned on 582 00:30:23,722 --> 00:30:25,355 because they know that they've got something, 583 00:30:25,357 --> 00:30:27,424 you know, between their legs that they're like, 584 00:30:27,426 --> 00:30:31,428 "There's nothing up here. There's nothing here. There's nothing in my wallet." 585 00:30:31,430 --> 00:30:34,364 "So let me show you, you know, what god gave me." 586 00:30:34,366 --> 00:30:38,368 If you leave, I'll send everyone your nude photos you sent me. 587 00:30:39,772 --> 00:30:41,572 You wouldn't dare! 588 00:30:42,541 --> 00:30:46,176 Oh, look, you as a sexy Ash Ketchum. 589 00:30:46,178 --> 00:30:50,547 What would your mother think if she saw your Pokeballs? 590 00:30:50,549 --> 00:30:52,816 Damn it, Claire! That was our little secret. 591 00:30:52,818 --> 00:30:55,853 I'm in a phase right now where I have been masturbating to dick pics, 592 00:30:55,855 --> 00:30:57,020 but, like, huge ones. 593 00:30:57,022 --> 00:31:01,491 Like, eight-and-a-half, nine inches, and, like, thick. 594 00:31:01,493 --> 00:31:04,862 Like... Like that, 595 00:31:04,864 --> 00:31:06,964 and like that. 596 00:31:06,966 --> 00:31:11,535 You know what? I would take a picture off the Internet and send that 597 00:31:11,537 --> 00:31:13,937 instead of my thing, and just let them be disappointed 598 00:31:13,939 --> 00:31:16,240 when it's too late and they can't do anything about it. 599 00:31:16,242 --> 00:31:17,608 I don't need a picture of your cock. 600 00:31:17,610 --> 00:31:19,610 It's not all that. When I see it in person, that's awesome. 601 00:31:19,612 --> 00:31:23,080 But I also don't send any graphic photos of myself. 602 00:31:23,082 --> 00:31:25,015 Because I know what guys do with them. 603 00:31:25,017 --> 00:31:26,550 They just show 'em to their friends. 604 00:31:26,552 --> 00:31:28,719 And you can get enough photos of me online. 605 00:31:28,721 --> 00:31:31,021 I just say, be like everybody else. Google me. 606 00:31:31,023 --> 00:31:35,058 I don't think that pussy shots or dick pics are necessarily sexy. 607 00:31:35,060 --> 00:31:37,861 You know, genitals are the weirdest looking things I've ever seen. 608 00:31:37,863 --> 00:31:42,366 Probably 80% of women are like, "Don't send me a picture of your dick." 609 00:31:42,368 --> 00:31:45,936 And then the size queens are like, "Yeah, send me a picture!" You know? 610 00:31:45,938 --> 00:31:48,805 Men are out there texting women 611 00:31:48,807 --> 00:31:51,475 photos of their penis, all the time. 612 00:31:51,477 --> 00:31:53,644 You wanna see something amazing? Watch this. 613 00:31:53,646 --> 00:31:55,612 Clap if you are a woman in the audience. 614 00:32:00,853 --> 00:32:04,988 Okay. Now clap if a dude has sent you a dick photo before. 615 00:32:07,726 --> 00:32:11,428 Was there even any difference in the applause? 616 00:32:11,430 --> 00:32:15,399 Now, dick pics... Dick pics are a whole other thing. 617 00:32:15,401 --> 00:32:18,135 As a woman who's had a lot of sex, I can look a dick and go, 618 00:32:18,137 --> 00:32:22,005 "Oh, my gosh. I would do this position, that position. This would be perfect for that." 619 00:32:22,007 --> 00:32:23,373 So I can tell how you're gonna... 620 00:32:23,375 --> 00:32:25,342 I can tell, from looking at an erection, 621 00:32:25,344 --> 00:32:27,210 how I'm gonna like having it inside of me. 622 00:32:27,212 --> 00:32:30,914 I had a dude, one time, get a nut. 623 00:32:30,916 --> 00:32:34,351 I mean, show me before it even busted. 624 00:32:34,353 --> 00:32:37,354 He was talking to me. "It's coming, Kim. It's coming." 625 00:32:37,356 --> 00:32:40,958 And I swear to god, through the whole thing, pop, pop, pop. 626 00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:45,896 I had three or four pictures of an exploding penis. Yeah. 627 00:32:45,898 --> 00:32:47,831 So that was kinda surprising, 628 00:32:47,832 --> 00:32:49,765 'cause I didn't think you can hold a phone at the same time 629 00:32:49,768 --> 00:32:52,135 while you're jacking off. I didn't think you could do it. 630 00:32:52,137 --> 00:32:53,403 But it can be done. 631 00:32:53,405 --> 00:32:54,838 So here are my tips 632 00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:56,873 as to how to take a good dick picture. 633 00:32:56,875 --> 00:33:00,077 First one being, make sure you have good lighting. 634 00:33:00,079 --> 00:33:02,245 Just make sure you look presentable down there. 635 00:33:02,247 --> 00:33:04,047 You know, not all guys like to shave. 636 00:33:04,049 --> 00:33:06,616 If you guys just trim, trim it up a little bit. 637 00:33:06,618 --> 00:33:09,619 Three, is it's all about the angles. Just like on MySpace. 638 00:33:09,621 --> 00:33:14,324 I like to get it from like down here at the base, you know what I'm sayin'? 639 00:33:14,326 --> 00:33:17,661 So even if you're not big, it just looks triumphant and powerful. 640 00:33:17,663 --> 00:33:19,930 You never know when you're gonna get a picture. 641 00:33:19,932 --> 00:33:22,733 And I'm not really big on the pictures to be honest. 642 00:33:22,735 --> 00:33:26,236 Like, if you ask me for a picture, I'll send it, 643 00:33:26,238 --> 00:33:28,071 and I'd like the same courtesy back. 644 00:33:28,073 --> 00:33:30,507 Which means that if I'd like a picture, I'll ask. 645 00:33:30,509 --> 00:33:32,509 Why are you sending me all these dick pics? 646 00:33:32,511 --> 00:33:35,379 Like, I had this guy... I do not know who this person is. 647 00:33:35,381 --> 00:33:37,347 And they send me this pictures, 648 00:33:37,349 --> 00:33:40,450 and this guy has this dick, it's this big. Not exaggerating. 649 00:33:40,452 --> 00:33:42,352 Whenever it starts to get into that realm, 650 00:33:42,354 --> 00:33:44,454 I always get scared. Like, when's it coming? 651 00:33:44,456 --> 00:33:46,189 When's the dick pic coming? You know? 652 00:33:46,191 --> 00:33:49,659 And, you know, to be honest, they're never good. 653 00:33:49,661 --> 00:33:53,263 He drew a spider web on the head of his cock, 654 00:33:53,265 --> 00:33:57,100 and he's like, "Look at this funny little dick. Isn't this hilarious?" 655 00:33:57,102 --> 00:33:58,301 "Isn't this blah, blah, blah?" 656 00:33:58,303 --> 00:34:00,103 And I open it, and it's this dude's dick. 657 00:34:00,105 --> 00:34:01,505 And I'm like, "Oh, my god." 658 00:34:01,507 --> 00:34:05,175 For the most part, it's an unflattering picture 659 00:34:05,177 --> 00:34:07,110 of something that I typically enjoy. 660 00:34:07,112 --> 00:34:09,913 I'm as self-conscious as any other guy out there. 661 00:34:09,915 --> 00:34:14,184 Um, I want to have a little bit of assurance 662 00:34:14,186 --> 00:34:17,921 that she likes what she sees before she sees it in person. 663 00:34:17,923 --> 00:34:19,723 I would just send dick pictures to... 664 00:34:19,725 --> 00:34:22,692 Dude, I would just send them up a storm. That's the thing to do. 665 00:34:22,694 --> 00:34:25,896 It's like, it's either a body picture or a dick pic. It's gonna be one of the two. 666 00:34:25,898 --> 00:34:29,733 The Captain Morgan picture. 667 00:34:29,735 --> 00:34:32,169 It's my favorite stance, the Captain Morgan. 668 00:34:32,171 --> 00:34:34,304 I don't know. Now that I think about it, it's kinda shitty. 669 00:34:34,306 --> 00:34:36,356 Yeah? 670 00:34:36,357 --> 00:34:38,407 'Cause all of my junk is just out there. 671 00:34:38,410 --> 00:34:43,246 When you send your junk through Gmail, for example, 672 00:34:43,248 --> 00:34:46,299 the NSA got a copy of that. 673 00:34:46,300 --> 00:34:49,351 The good news is there's no program named the Dick Pic program. 674 00:34:49,354 --> 00:34:52,055 The worst is when they, like, take dick pics on the toilet. 675 00:34:52,057 --> 00:34:54,658 Do not take dick pics on the toilet. 676 00:34:54,660 --> 00:34:57,594 Like I think, like, "What are you doing that you have to do that?" 677 00:34:57,596 --> 00:34:59,496 Men who are not gay 678 00:34:59,498 --> 00:35:03,600 are socialized to only think about their dick as a source of pleasure. 679 00:35:03,602 --> 00:35:04,601 Giving or receiving. 680 00:35:04,603 --> 00:35:06,336 A guy sending a picture of his dick going, 681 00:35:06,338 --> 00:35:10,240 "Me happy. Share fun you? Me toy fun share?" 682 00:35:10,242 --> 00:35:12,609 And the woman goes, "Eek, what?" 683 00:35:12,611 --> 00:35:14,411 You know, men want in. 684 00:35:20,385 --> 00:35:22,452 Hi. My name is Janet, 685 00:35:22,454 --> 00:35:25,388 and everybody is talking about dick pics. 686 00:35:25,390 --> 00:35:27,491 I've never received a dick pic. 687 00:35:27,493 --> 00:35:32,529 Uh, so my friends put together this slide show of 89 dick pics. 688 00:35:32,531 --> 00:35:34,264 And, uh, we're gonna take a look at them. 689 00:35:34,266 --> 00:35:36,199 I'm gonna see what this is all about. 690 00:35:36,201 --> 00:35:37,367 So here we go. 691 00:35:37,369 --> 00:35:39,803 This does not look like a person, I don't think. 692 00:35:39,805 --> 00:35:42,539 And this is a... Okay, so I know this is an uncircumcised one. 693 00:35:42,541 --> 00:35:43,974 I don't know if this is erect. 694 00:35:43,976 --> 00:35:45,942 This is like a sort of moodier one. 695 00:35:45,944 --> 00:35:49,980 I'm not a size queen or anything, but this is very short. 696 00:35:49,982 --> 00:35:53,583 This is a big, round lollipop dick. 697 00:35:53,585 --> 00:35:55,285 Oh... 698 00:35:56,989 --> 00:36:00,991 It's like... Yeah, he's like, bleh. 699 00:36:00,993 --> 00:36:03,994 I don't know what this is. 700 00:36:03,996 --> 00:36:05,395 Curve. 701 00:36:05,397 --> 00:36:08,632 I mean, I guess he could be tugging his own ball sack, right? 702 00:36:08,634 --> 00:36:11,701 Or... But it seems he maybe fingering his butt hole. 703 00:36:11,703 --> 00:36:14,237 Hmm, makes me wonder what you could do with that. 704 00:36:16,475 --> 00:36:18,708 Yes! Yes! 705 00:36:18,710 --> 00:36:20,844 This is the one I would wanna receive. 706 00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:24,414 I don't... And I add, I don't believe it's real 707 00:36:24,416 --> 00:36:25,815 because it's too good. 708 00:36:26,852 --> 00:36:29,119 This one, I'm sure, is real. 709 00:36:29,121 --> 00:36:31,054 So, guys, women are complicated, 710 00:36:31,056 --> 00:36:35,225 and even though you think you're just sending a picture of your penis, 711 00:36:35,227 --> 00:36:40,764 we're constantly trying to put together the clues about you, 712 00:36:40,766 --> 00:36:42,866 the man behind the dick. 713 00:36:42,868 --> 00:36:45,335 But your wieners are fine. 714 00:36:45,337 --> 00:36:47,837 Put your dick out there and be fucking proud of it. 715 00:36:47,839 --> 00:36:49,372 If you sent it, you meant it. 716 00:36:49,374 --> 00:36:51,274 I'm gonna text my ex. Probably shouldn't, right? 717 00:36:51,276 --> 00:36:53,043 I'm gonna do it anyway. 718 00:36:53,044 --> 00:36:54,811 Could we get some blow? I desperately need some blow. 719 00:36:54,813 --> 00:36:56,379 But first, 720 00:36:56,381 --> 00:36:57,480 let me take a dick pic. 721 00:37:04,022 --> 00:37:04,888 Let me take a dick pic. 722 00:37:04,890 --> 00:37:06,456 Mystery's gone. 723 00:37:06,458 --> 00:37:09,826 I guess people don't want mystery anymore. 724 00:37:09,828 --> 00:37:11,962 I'd rather be surprised. 725 00:37:17,869 --> 00:37:20,237 Should the elderly sext? 726 00:37:20,239 --> 00:37:23,106 Yes, but keep it to themselves. 727 00:37:23,108 --> 00:37:26,476 People still want to have sex at 50, 60, 70. 728 00:37:26,478 --> 00:37:29,779 So it's kinda natural that that would happen. 729 00:37:29,781 --> 00:37:32,082 I wouldn't do it myself. 730 00:37:32,084 --> 00:37:35,752 No. Nope, Let's just nip that right there. Nope. 731 00:37:35,754 --> 00:37:37,387 No. They can send e-mails. I mean, come on. 732 00:37:37,389 --> 00:37:40,423 It's been my experience with elderly people 733 00:37:40,425 --> 00:37:43,893 that they really can't even get to their contacts, 734 00:37:43,895 --> 00:37:46,329 you know, and their phone very well, so... 735 00:37:46,331 --> 00:37:47,664 Fuck yeah. 736 00:37:47,666 --> 00:37:48,732 Hell yeah! 737 00:37:48,734 --> 00:37:50,300 They need it more than anyone. 738 00:37:50,302 --> 00:37:53,703 Who the hell wants to look at an elderly... 739 00:37:55,574 --> 00:37:57,574 No. Nope. E-mail. Stick with e-mail. 740 00:37:57,576 --> 00:37:59,009 I don't know if Viagra... 741 00:37:59,011 --> 00:38:02,579 You know, people should've been not having sex for a long time. 742 00:38:02,581 --> 00:38:05,915 Like, should've been done, retired from having sex, all of a sudden, having sex. 743 00:38:05,917 --> 00:38:08,518 And you know, they leave things around. 744 00:38:08,520 --> 00:38:11,821 You know, so their phone's gonna be left... You don't want, like, 745 00:38:11,823 --> 00:38:14,724 the grandkids to find the phone, and then it's like, ugh. 746 00:38:14,726 --> 00:38:18,194 If you're an old person, and you have a cellphone, 747 00:38:18,196 --> 00:38:20,463 and you know how to text, 748 00:38:20,465 --> 00:38:22,866 uh, yeah, go ahead, knock yourselves out. 749 00:38:22,868 --> 00:38:28,305 Look, we got parental blocks all over the world. 750 00:38:28,307 --> 00:38:31,608 I think it's about time we put some grandparental blocks on some things, 751 00:38:31,610 --> 00:38:34,277 and sexting might be the first and foremost to put it on. 752 00:38:34,279 --> 00:38:36,746 Some guy's going, "Hey, look at this." 753 00:38:36,748 --> 00:38:38,682 "It's going to work. It's going to work." 754 00:38:38,684 --> 00:38:42,552 The woman's going, "That might be going to work, but my pussy's retired." 755 00:38:42,554 --> 00:38:44,354 "So, I'm sorry. It's gonna have to call in sick." 756 00:38:44,356 --> 00:38:45,922 E-mail at maximum. 757 00:38:45,924 --> 00:38:48,391 Maybe a family picture sent. 758 00:38:48,393 --> 00:38:51,394 But sexting, no way. No one wants to see those wrinkle sticks. 759 00:38:51,396 --> 00:38:57,167 You can't make "Don't sit under the apple tree with anyone else but me" sexy. 760 00:38:57,169 --> 00:38:58,768 You can't. 761 00:38:58,770 --> 00:39:01,805 Well, you know, with Viagra, 762 00:39:01,807 --> 00:39:03,773 I suppose, you know, why should they be left out of it? 763 00:39:03,775 --> 00:39:06,876 But that's like putting a new flagpole on a condemned building. 764 00:39:06,878 --> 00:39:08,178 I mean, what the fuck? 765 00:39:15,487 --> 00:39:18,121 Breaking news just in to our newsroom in New York City. 766 00:39:18,123 --> 00:39:20,657 The New York mayoral candidate, Anthony Weiner, 767 00:39:20,659 --> 00:39:25,228 now admits he sent additional explicit photos and texts to a woman online. 768 00:39:25,230 --> 00:39:27,130 For the past few years, I have engaged in several 769 00:39:27,132 --> 00:39:29,933 inappropriate conversations conducted over Twitter, 770 00:39:29,935 --> 00:39:32,369 Facebook, e-mail, and occasionally on the phone 771 00:39:32,371 --> 00:39:34,988 with women I had met online. 772 00:39:34,989 --> 00:39:37,606 What about the gods opening up the clouds and giving us that one? 773 00:39:37,609 --> 00:39:40,443 But it was just so easy, you couldn't even touch it. 774 00:39:40,445 --> 00:39:42,479 No pun intended. 775 00:39:42,481 --> 00:39:45,081 Anthony Weiner, perfect example. 776 00:39:45,083 --> 00:39:47,517 Sent a picture of himself 777 00:39:47,519 --> 00:39:49,552 to somebody he really didn't know, 778 00:39:49,554 --> 00:39:53,423 and had conversations with that person electronically he didn't know. 779 00:39:53,425 --> 00:39:55,075 And look what happens. 780 00:39:55,076 --> 00:39:56,726 He tried to... As far as I can remember, 781 00:39:56,728 --> 00:39:58,395 he tried to deny that it was him. 782 00:39:58,397 --> 00:39:59,829 Then people were, "It's kind of a big dick. 783 00:39:59,831 --> 00:40:01,164 He goes, "Oh, yeah. That is me." 784 00:40:01,166 --> 00:40:04,601 The craziest part of the whole Anthony Weiner thing is... 785 00:40:04,603 --> 00:40:06,569 the guy never met you face-to-face. 786 00:40:06,571 --> 00:40:08,088 No, he never met me. 787 00:40:08,089 --> 00:40:09,606 But I've had more contact with you already. 788 00:40:09,608 --> 00:40:12,475 You had to say to yourself "This guy is one sick puppy," right? 789 00:40:12,477 --> 00:40:16,079 Oh, totally. Especially after the first scandal had already happened. 790 00:40:16,081 --> 00:40:18,114 Brett Favre, the same thing. 791 00:40:18,116 --> 00:40:20,116 Jen Sterger, the New York Jets TV host 792 00:40:20,118 --> 00:40:22,585 caught up in a sexting scandal with Brett Favre. 793 00:40:22,587 --> 00:40:25,021 It was all investigated by the NFL last fall. 794 00:40:25,023 --> 00:40:27,157 They concluded Jenn did nothing wrong, 795 00:40:27,159 --> 00:40:29,325 but fined Favre $50,000 796 00:40:29,327 --> 00:40:31,194 for failing to fully cooperate with the probe. 797 00:40:31,196 --> 00:40:34,063 Oh, my god. You guys saw Brett Favre's dick pic? 798 00:40:34,065 --> 00:40:36,332 He had fucking Crocs on, and his dick was not even hard. 799 00:40:36,334 --> 00:40:37,500 That's the worst thing you can do, 800 00:40:37,502 --> 00:40:39,335 is to be wearing Crocs and have a small dick. 801 00:40:39,337 --> 00:40:41,237 Before sexting, 802 00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:44,207 Congressman Foley had an instant message conversation 803 00:40:44,209 --> 00:40:46,142 with a page, where he said things. 804 00:40:46,144 --> 00:40:48,745 Stupidly thinking that instant message conversations 805 00:40:48,747 --> 00:40:50,380 just sort of disappear when you're done. 806 00:40:50,382 --> 00:40:54,818 Not knowing that the person was copying and pasting everything that he said. 807 00:40:54,820 --> 00:40:56,186 He lost his job. 808 00:40:56,187 --> 00:40:57,553 It turns out that James Franco 809 00:40:57,556 --> 00:41:01,291 was trying to pick up a teenager on Instagram, in case you haven't heard. 810 00:41:01,293 --> 00:41:05,495 The Oscar-nominated actor was busted for flirting with a 17-year-old. 811 00:41:05,497 --> 00:41:07,764 You can hear him saying to the girl, 812 00:41:07,766 --> 00:41:09,566 "Tag me on Instagram" in that. 813 00:41:09,568 --> 00:41:11,301 'Cause he, obviously, thought she was hot, 814 00:41:11,303 --> 00:41:13,703 and wanted to be able to find where this person was. 815 00:41:13,705 --> 00:41:18,808 Then they Instagram messaged back and forth, and then it flowed into texts. 816 00:41:18,810 --> 00:41:20,777 And then he said, "Well, do you want me to come over?" 817 00:41:20,779 --> 00:41:24,747 Uh, you know, I'm embarrassed, and I, uh... 818 00:41:24,749 --> 00:41:28,952 I guess I'm just a model of, you know, how social media is tricky. 819 00:41:28,954 --> 00:41:33,089 I used bad judgment, and I learned my lesson. 820 00:41:33,091 --> 00:41:35,391 I think we need to manage our expectations 821 00:41:35,393 --> 00:41:37,460 of celebrities and politicians a little bit better. 822 00:41:37,462 --> 00:41:39,863 The reality is that these people are humans. 823 00:41:39,865 --> 00:41:42,299 They're people. 824 00:41:42,300 --> 00:41:44,734 We need to have realistic expectations on their behaviors. 825 00:41:44,736 --> 00:41:47,070 I think we expect people in those positions 826 00:41:47,072 --> 00:41:49,973 to almost be inhuman sometimes. 827 00:41:49,975 --> 00:41:53,243 And then we shame them for these behaviors. 828 00:41:53,245 --> 00:41:57,213 And I think this should be looked at as a symptom of our culture. 829 00:41:57,215 --> 00:42:01,451 Hollywood actress, Eva Longoria, caught her NBA husband sexting. 830 00:42:01,453 --> 00:42:05,588 Sexting can lead to divorce just like cheating leads to divorce. 831 00:42:05,590 --> 00:42:07,023 And as a matter of fact, 832 00:42:07,025 --> 00:42:11,227 sexting might be used as evidence in a divorce case. 833 00:42:27,913 --> 00:42:30,880 Sure. Sounds good. 834 00:42:34,085 --> 00:42:37,186 How does eggplant Parmesan sound? LOL. 835 00:42:38,290 --> 00:42:40,123 Okay. Shit. 836 00:42:43,261 --> 00:42:45,762 LOL. Whatever you like. 837 00:42:51,603 --> 00:42:54,904 Ah. This just doesn't work. 838 00:43:01,980 --> 00:43:04,047 Come on, that is a foul. Clearly. 839 00:43:13,124 --> 00:43:14,657 Eggplant is fine! 840 00:43:22,801 --> 00:43:24,834 Again with the eggplant. 841 00:43:24,836 --> 00:43:28,571 Um, yes, eggplant is fine. 842 00:43:31,109 --> 00:43:32,842 Wait, wait. "At attention"? 843 00:43:32,844 --> 00:43:36,045 At attention? Uh, yes it will. 844 00:43:36,047 --> 00:43:37,780 Oh, sorry. Too late. 845 00:43:37,782 --> 00:43:39,702 I think I just started my period. 846 00:43:42,153 --> 00:43:44,621 Hmm, okay. 847 00:43:44,623 --> 00:43:47,623 It's gonna be fun to deal with that later. 848 00:43:52,931 --> 00:43:55,264 One of the things we've already started to see 849 00:43:55,266 --> 00:43:58,468 in this era of electronic communication 850 00:43:58,470 --> 00:44:01,938 is that some people, for some reason, 851 00:44:01,940 --> 00:44:06,676 don't pay attention to the possible problems that can crop up 852 00:44:06,678 --> 00:44:09,912 from sending something from your phone to someone else. 853 00:44:09,914 --> 00:44:14,350 I think that one of the problems of this being such a great tool 854 00:44:14,352 --> 00:44:16,853 is that then people will rely on it too much. 855 00:44:16,855 --> 00:44:21,391 And then you find that people will end up having almost entire relationships 856 00:44:21,393 --> 00:44:22,659 just using this. 857 00:44:22,661 --> 00:44:25,795 You lose so much in just sexting 858 00:44:25,797 --> 00:44:28,931 because you don't have the tone of somebody's voice, 859 00:44:28,933 --> 00:44:31,300 or you can't tell what someone's feeling. 860 00:44:31,302 --> 00:44:35,672 And so those really simple subtleties are lost. 861 00:44:35,674 --> 00:44:37,640 Things get just misconstrued, 862 00:44:37,642 --> 00:44:39,942 where, you know, someone says something. 863 00:44:39,944 --> 00:44:42,278 You get a text and you're like, 864 00:44:42,279 --> 00:44:44,613 "What did that mean? Did he mean it like this? Or did he mean it like this?" 865 00:44:44,616 --> 00:44:47,183 And then, something gets taken completely out of context 866 00:44:47,185 --> 00:44:51,120 and a fight gets started just because of how something's said. 867 00:44:51,122 --> 00:44:55,358 You lose the art of actually socializing. 868 00:44:55,360 --> 00:44:57,960 You know, people aren't going out as much. 869 00:44:57,962 --> 00:45:00,897 You know, you end up doing this really weird thing 870 00:45:00,899 --> 00:45:04,067 where you're at home isolating to find somebody. 871 00:45:04,069 --> 00:45:06,736 The exhilaration, the excitement 872 00:45:06,738 --> 00:45:09,906 from a possible encounter or to see where something goes, 873 00:45:09,908 --> 00:45:13,676 far outweighs the threat of danger. 874 00:45:13,678 --> 00:45:15,645 Today, a Nova Scotia woman 875 00:45:15,647 --> 00:45:17,847 is speaking out about a tragic tale. 876 00:45:17,849 --> 00:45:20,616 She shares her story of her teenage daughter's suicide, 877 00:45:20,618 --> 00:45:22,785 and the bullying she encountered. 878 00:45:22,787 --> 00:45:25,788 Rehtaeh's mother says Rehtaeh experienced months of torment 879 00:45:25,790 --> 00:45:28,658 after a revealing photo was circulated. 880 00:45:28,660 --> 00:45:31,627 That night, she says, four boys raped her daughter. 881 00:45:31,629 --> 00:45:34,397 While one of the guys was having sex with her, 882 00:45:34,399 --> 00:45:36,532 another guy said, "Take a picture. Take a picture." 883 00:45:36,534 --> 00:45:38,367 And she heard the picture click. 884 00:45:38,369 --> 00:45:40,436 What did it show? 885 00:45:40,438 --> 00:45:44,040 It showed a guy having sex with her. 886 00:45:44,042 --> 00:45:46,075 It's scary. 887 00:45:46,077 --> 00:45:48,745 Her story is similar to the case of Amanda Todd. 888 00:45:48,747 --> 00:45:51,147 The BC team who put up a video on YouTube 889 00:45:51,149 --> 00:45:53,683 detailing how she was bullied over a graphic photo. 890 00:45:56,221 --> 00:45:58,054 A lot of the messages 891 00:45:58,056 --> 00:46:02,492 are not just confined to one person's phone. 892 00:46:02,494 --> 00:46:04,861 There may even be a group of people 893 00:46:04,863 --> 00:46:09,298 who are sending the messages back and forth. 894 00:46:09,300 --> 00:46:12,268 And you don't know, really, who you're talking to. 895 00:46:12,270 --> 00:46:15,705 I was talking to a guy that I met at a high school football game. 896 00:46:15,707 --> 00:46:17,440 And we would just text, like every day. 897 00:46:17,442 --> 00:46:18,875 Like, flirt and whatnot. 898 00:46:18,877 --> 00:46:21,477 And, um, one night, we were texting, 899 00:46:21,479 --> 00:46:25,648 and like in the middle of the conversation, I got a random text. 900 00:46:25,650 --> 00:46:28,885 And it was back when I was younger, so I had the flip phone. 901 00:46:28,887 --> 00:46:32,221 And I opened it, and it's like, "Would you like to download the picture message?" 902 00:46:32,223 --> 00:46:34,123 And so I was like, yeah. It totally downloaded, 903 00:46:34,125 --> 00:46:37,727 and I just got a picture of his dick. 904 00:46:37,729 --> 00:46:40,096 Just a full shot of the dick and everything. 905 00:46:40,098 --> 00:46:42,265 And I was, like, traumatized and shocked. 906 00:46:42,267 --> 00:46:43,499 'Cause I was only in seventh grade, 907 00:46:43,501 --> 00:46:46,235 and it was the first time I'd ever seen a dick. 908 00:46:46,237 --> 00:46:48,070 And it was just like gnarly for me. 909 00:46:48,072 --> 00:46:50,173 If you're, say, a teenager or even a pre-teen, 910 00:46:50,175 --> 00:46:52,842 your brain is not completely developed 911 00:46:52,844 --> 00:46:55,645 to the sense that you can make a good decision there. 912 00:46:55,647 --> 00:46:59,482 And so, the kinds of decisions you make are faulty. 913 00:46:59,484 --> 00:47:00,950 And so, you go ahead and go, 914 00:47:00,952 --> 00:47:03,419 "Oh, I think I'll take this picture and send it to somebody." Boom. 915 00:47:03,421 --> 00:47:05,388 And it's gone before you've thought about it. 916 00:47:05,390 --> 00:47:10,159 I really don't think the parents are getting involved as much as they should. 917 00:47:10,161 --> 00:47:12,161 And I think you have to start young. 918 00:47:12,163 --> 00:47:16,632 Like, nine and ten, and say, "Look, just don't set yourself up." 919 00:47:16,634 --> 00:47:20,603 Especially for women. They're jeopardizing themselves. 920 00:47:20,605 --> 00:47:24,574 I wish younger people would not send sex pictures of themselves to each other 921 00:47:24,576 --> 00:47:27,443 because of the consequences they cannot yet understand. 922 00:47:27,445 --> 00:47:29,612 I'm not a parent, but I used to be a teenager, 923 00:47:29,614 --> 00:47:32,949 and I totally get the desire to... 924 00:47:32,951 --> 00:47:34,383 "Am I attractive?" 925 00:47:34,385 --> 00:47:37,153 What kind of, you know... "Am I sexy?" 926 00:47:37,155 --> 00:47:39,121 I mean, 'cause when you're body's changing, 927 00:47:39,123 --> 00:47:41,123 you wanna know, "Am I sexy? What is sexy?" 928 00:47:41,125 --> 00:47:42,325 And you're still discovering that. 929 00:47:42,327 --> 00:47:45,094 My father used to tell me actions have consequences. 930 00:47:45,096 --> 00:47:47,730 And when it comes to teenage sexting, 931 00:47:47,732 --> 00:47:49,966 actions have consequences they can't even contemplate. 932 00:47:49,968 --> 00:47:51,067 They don't have any experience. 933 00:47:51,069 --> 00:47:53,119 It's not that they're not smart. 934 00:47:53,120 --> 00:47:55,170 They just don't know enough to know what the consequences can be. 935 00:47:55,173 --> 00:47:56,672 Forget Mom being mad at me. 936 00:47:56,674 --> 00:47:59,742 And yet, all the horror stories, that this picture got spread around, 937 00:47:59,744 --> 00:48:00,877 the girl got slut shamed. 938 00:48:00,879 --> 00:48:02,812 It still doesn't seem to stop young people. 939 00:48:02,814 --> 00:48:04,814 Because it's not gonna happen to them, 940 00:48:05,149 --> 00:48:08,384 the magical thinking, the invincible shield of being 16. 941 00:48:08,386 --> 00:48:12,989 It's gotta sink in that people don't care, 942 00:48:12,991 --> 00:48:17,293 and they're gonna send those pictures to whoever they want to. 943 00:48:17,295 --> 00:48:21,030 And that's what sets people up for bullying. 944 00:48:21,032 --> 00:48:26,936 You really don't want kids under the age of 18 sexting because it's child pornography. 945 00:48:26,938 --> 00:48:29,122 And that's illegal. 946 00:48:29,123 --> 00:48:31,307 And it's also not healthy because they are not at a developed mental level 947 00:48:31,309 --> 00:48:33,660 to be able to handle it. 948 00:48:33,661 --> 00:48:36,012 And also, kids younger than 18 tend to be much more free about 949 00:48:36,014 --> 00:48:38,881 distributing messages to everybody, all their friends. 950 00:48:38,883 --> 00:48:41,050 And you really don't want naked pictures of you, 951 00:48:41,052 --> 00:48:44,620 or nasty talk to get spread to a bunch of teenagers. 952 00:48:44,622 --> 00:48:46,088 It's probably not a good thing. 953 00:48:46,090 --> 00:48:49,725 If you take a clever picture, and it's one wrong button, 954 00:48:49,727 --> 00:48:50,793 then you're in big trouble. 955 00:48:50,795 --> 00:48:52,495 I mean, it doesn't even go to the NSA. 956 00:48:52,497 --> 00:48:54,530 It goes to your Aunt Lorraine 957 00:48:54,532 --> 00:48:57,417 who doesn't like those pictures. 958 00:48:57,418 --> 00:49:00,303 You know, I think that any time we talk about teenagers or children and sexuality, 959 00:49:00,305 --> 00:49:02,104 it becomes such a taboo subject. 960 00:49:02,106 --> 00:49:05,508 But the reality is, our sexuality develops 961 00:49:05,510 --> 00:49:07,543 since we were very small children. 962 00:49:07,545 --> 00:49:10,646 Some people really have difficulty talking to their children about sex. 963 00:49:10,648 --> 00:49:12,381 And that's a cultural issue as well. 964 00:49:12,383 --> 00:49:13,883 We need more support with parents. 965 00:49:13,885 --> 00:49:16,552 We need to teach them how to talk about sex to their kids. 966 00:49:16,554 --> 00:49:19,789 How to appropriately give their kids technology. 967 00:49:19,791 --> 00:49:21,290 Are these kids being monitored? 968 00:49:21,292 --> 00:49:22,825 You know, a lot of kids come home from school 969 00:49:22,827 --> 00:49:24,760 and they sit down on their computers with no supervision. 970 00:49:24,762 --> 00:49:27,163 They have cellphones. The parents aren't watching. 971 00:49:27,165 --> 00:49:29,098 And then trouble happens. 972 00:49:35,940 --> 00:49:38,040 Well, especially to the girls. 973 00:49:38,042 --> 00:49:43,646 Um, I don't think the message is communicated enough 974 00:49:43,648 --> 00:49:45,414 that they can say no. 975 00:49:45,416 --> 00:49:47,850 You know, I think that the emphasis of abstinence 976 00:49:47,852 --> 00:49:51,921 or abstaining from sexualized conversation with teenagers and children 977 00:49:51,923 --> 00:49:53,956 only hurts us. It doesn't help us. 978 00:49:53,958 --> 00:49:56,359 So let's talk about it. Why are these kids doing it? 979 00:49:56,361 --> 00:49:59,161 Their sex drives are going up. They're going through adolescence. 980 00:49:59,163 --> 00:50:02,398 The reality is that they're becoming sexual humans. 981 00:50:02,400 --> 00:50:04,633 How do we deal with that and teach these kids 982 00:50:04,635 --> 00:50:06,769 responsibility with what they're doing? 983 00:50:06,771 --> 00:50:08,604 Are their parents monitoring their phones? 984 00:50:08,606 --> 00:50:11,007 You know, it's up to the parents 985 00:50:11,009 --> 00:50:14,010 to monitor and teach these children 986 00:50:14,012 --> 00:50:15,411 how to conduct themselves. 987 00:50:15,413 --> 00:50:17,213 That's the issue. 988 00:50:17,215 --> 00:50:18,848 Parents have called it dangerous, 989 00:50:18,850 --> 00:50:21,384 and new tonight, a west Michigan sex offender 990 00:50:21,386 --> 00:50:24,520 is speaking out about the app called Kik. 991 00:50:24,522 --> 00:50:28,224 Wow, I can be whoever I wanna be. 992 00:50:28,226 --> 00:50:30,693 I can get anybody I want. 993 00:50:30,695 --> 00:50:36,098 I can achieve my sexual glorification through this app. 994 00:50:36,100 --> 00:50:38,768 That's when I said, "You know what? I have to stop this." 995 00:50:38,770 --> 00:50:42,705 Please make sure to take Kik off your kids' phone. 996 00:50:42,707 --> 00:50:46,308 Our thinking is still stuck back in the pre-Internet days, 997 00:50:46,310 --> 00:50:48,744 that if we say something to somebody, 998 00:50:48,746 --> 00:50:50,513 if we send a picture to somebody, 999 00:50:50,515 --> 00:50:52,615 it's private between the two of us. 1000 00:50:52,617 --> 00:50:54,817 It's not private. In fact, nothing's private. 1001 00:50:54,819 --> 00:50:59,655 We have a really sort of uneasy relationship with this concept of privacy. 1002 00:50:59,657 --> 00:51:01,857 It's sort of an exchange here. 1003 00:51:01,859 --> 00:51:05,561 We've exchanged privacy for the ultimate connectivity. 1004 00:51:05,563 --> 00:51:10,032 We're willing to give up privacy so that we can stay connected anywhere, anytime, 1005 00:51:10,034 --> 00:51:12,268 to whoever, whenever, whatever. 1006 00:51:12,270 --> 00:51:13,869 That's the new Worldwide Web. 1007 00:51:13,871 --> 00:51:16,205 If you post something on Facebook 1008 00:51:16,207 --> 00:51:19,742 and you decide five seconds later, "Oh, I shouldn't have said that," 1009 00:51:19,744 --> 00:51:20,910 and you delete it, 1010 00:51:20,912 --> 00:51:24,046 somebody may very well have copied it down 1011 00:51:24,048 --> 00:51:28,017 tweeted it, re-posted it, shared it, whatever. 1012 00:51:28,019 --> 00:51:30,019 And there's no guarantee of privacy. 1013 00:51:30,021 --> 00:51:34,023 In fact, one of the rules in this world right now is nothing is private. 1014 00:51:34,025 --> 00:51:38,561 My advice to a friend sending a naughty picture would probably be not to do it. 1015 00:51:38,563 --> 00:51:41,063 Um, it's not really a good idea, 1016 00:51:41,065 --> 00:51:43,499 especially if it's not someone that you know. 1017 00:51:43,501 --> 00:51:48,938 Like, I've only ever sent pictures of myself in a revealing situation 1018 00:51:48,940 --> 00:51:51,807 to my boyfriend. Someone who I know is not gonna share that with anybody. 1019 00:51:51,809 --> 00:51:54,376 She's not gonna share that with someone she trusts that much. 1020 00:51:54,378 --> 00:51:55,778 Don't do it. It's not worth it. 1021 00:51:55,780 --> 00:51:58,214 Don't put your face in it. 1022 00:51:58,216 --> 00:51:59,648 'Cause you don't know where it's gonna go, 1023 00:51:59,650 --> 00:52:04,220 and seriously, think about... And no identifying features. 1024 00:52:04,222 --> 00:52:08,057 So if you have very distinctive hand jewelry, take off the jewelry. 1025 00:52:08,059 --> 00:52:10,893 Make sure you're in front of a plain background that could be any place. 1026 00:52:10,895 --> 00:52:13,295 Not, "Oh, my god. That's Sally's kitchen." 1027 00:52:13,297 --> 00:52:17,466 "I totally recognize that magnet her mother brought her back from Barcelona." 1028 00:52:17,468 --> 00:52:18,601 Bad. 1029 00:52:18,602 --> 00:52:19,735 Make her send you the picture first. 1030 00:52:19,737 --> 00:52:20,870 Easy as that. 1031 00:52:20,872 --> 00:52:22,571 So make sure she sends you the picture first. 1032 00:52:22,573 --> 00:52:24,006 Because if she sends you the picture first, 1033 00:52:24,008 --> 00:52:25,841 and he sent her a dick pic, 1034 00:52:25,843 --> 00:52:27,710 and if she tries to go viral with that, 1035 00:52:27,712 --> 00:52:29,945 you got some back up plan. You go viral with her naked picture. 1036 00:52:29,947 --> 00:52:31,464 Easy as that. 1037 00:52:31,465 --> 00:52:32,982 Often what happens is you break up with someone, 1038 00:52:32,984 --> 00:52:34,517 the breakup is nasty. 1039 00:52:34,519 --> 00:52:36,752 The person who's hurt the most 1040 00:52:36,754 --> 00:52:40,356 then sends off the nasty pictures, 1041 00:52:40,358 --> 00:52:42,291 and boom, you're in real trouble. 1042 00:52:42,293 --> 00:52:43,926 I come from a really small town, 1043 00:52:43,928 --> 00:52:45,961 and things got around really quickly. 1044 00:52:45,963 --> 00:52:50,499 And, um, I just remember one girl sent a photo of herself. 1045 00:52:50,501 --> 00:52:52,368 Like, a full nude with her face in it, 1046 00:52:52,370 --> 00:52:55,104 to a guy that she liked in our high school. 1047 00:52:55,106 --> 00:52:58,374 And immediately, like, that morning, everyone had it. 1048 00:52:58,376 --> 00:53:00,709 So, I kind of like learned my lesson vicariously through her. 1049 00:53:00,711 --> 00:53:04,747 Then I was like, "Maybe I should be more careful about this." 1050 00:53:04,749 --> 00:53:08,784 That cock shot, or those nude shots can incriminate you later. 1051 00:53:08,786 --> 00:53:10,085 So if someone breaks up with you, 1052 00:53:10,087 --> 00:53:11,487 wants to show it to all their friends, 1053 00:53:11,489 --> 00:53:14,156 or send them to your job, or anything like that, 1054 00:53:14,158 --> 00:53:15,391 you've gotta be concerned with that. 1055 00:53:15,393 --> 00:53:17,026 I mean, I know some people would say, like, 1056 00:53:17,028 --> 00:53:20,863 "Well, don't let him, you know, film your face." 1057 00:53:20,865 --> 00:53:22,898 You know, but that's hard when you're giving a blowjob. 1058 00:53:22,900 --> 00:53:27,369 You hear a lot of stuff about people's pictures getting put online, 1059 00:53:27,371 --> 00:53:30,639 and things like that. Actually, somebody stole some of my pictures 1060 00:53:30,641 --> 00:53:33,742 and put them on a Craigslist thing. 1061 00:53:33,744 --> 00:53:37,713 And they were trying to act like they were me with my pictures. 1062 00:53:37,715 --> 00:53:40,482 A friend of mine showed it to me. I'm like, "Wow, that is me." 1063 00:53:40,484 --> 00:53:43,752 But they blacked out my eyes with a black bar. It's interesting. 1064 00:53:43,754 --> 00:53:46,922 My first piece of advice would be, don't show your face. 1065 00:53:46,924 --> 00:53:48,924 'Cause you could end up on a website. 1066 00:53:48,926 --> 00:53:51,327 Ex-girlfriend Revenge. 1067 00:53:51,329 --> 00:53:53,696 The dirty... I mean, you'd end up somewhere you don't wanna be. 1068 00:53:53,698 --> 00:53:56,031 So always make sure when you're sexting 1069 00:53:56,033 --> 00:53:58,567 to maybe not show your face. 1070 00:53:58,569 --> 00:54:00,436 When you put these photos out there, 1071 00:54:00,438 --> 00:54:02,838 there's a chance it's gonna end up on the Internet. 1072 00:54:02,840 --> 00:54:06,575 And I've had a bunch of girls send me some naked photos. 1073 00:54:06,577 --> 00:54:08,244 I've even recorded a sex tape, 1074 00:54:08,246 --> 00:54:09,845 but I've deleted them now 1075 00:54:09,847 --> 00:54:13,616 because I don't want the stigma of being responsible for a girl, 1076 00:54:13,618 --> 00:54:16,952 uh, having her naked photos posted on the Internet. 1077 00:54:16,954 --> 00:54:19,388 I mean, it's one thing for me to look at it, 1078 00:54:19,390 --> 00:54:22,191 but a million horny guys looking at her, 1079 00:54:22,193 --> 00:54:25,433 I don't think that's what she signed up for when she sent me her tits. 1080 00:54:26,130 --> 00:54:29,031 A man accused of setting up a revenge porn site 1081 00:54:29,033 --> 00:54:31,100 is now facing extortion charges. 1082 00:54:31,102 --> 00:54:34,103 It's a site where, basically, people would put up 1083 00:54:34,105 --> 00:54:36,472 like, inappropriate pictures of their exes. 1084 00:54:36,474 --> 00:54:38,173 Like, sex texting and that kind of thing. 1085 00:54:38,175 --> 00:54:41,577 Hunter Moore is a 26-year-old web renegade, 1086 00:54:41,579 --> 00:54:44,046 and his website, isanyoneup, 1087 00:54:44,048 --> 00:54:47,249 was designed for public humiliation on a scale 1088 00:54:47,251 --> 00:54:49,184 only the Internet can offer. 1089 00:54:49,186 --> 00:54:54,556 They can come to my site, submit all the pictures you sent, um, in a "sext," 1090 00:54:54,558 --> 00:54:58,193 along with your Facebook, or you Twitter, your Linkedln, 1091 00:54:58,195 --> 00:55:00,696 or any kind of social networking profile that you have, 1092 00:55:00,698 --> 00:55:04,600 and we would link it directly to that. 1093 00:55:04,602 --> 00:55:07,069 Officials released a 15-count indictment against Moore 1094 00:55:07,071 --> 00:55:10,105 that said he and a co-conspirator hacked into victims' computers 1095 00:55:10,107 --> 00:55:12,508 and stole nude photos. 1096 00:55:12,509 --> 00:55:14,910 A month before that, the FBI arrested Kevin Christopher Bollaert 1097 00:55:14,912 --> 00:55:18,280 who operated yougotposted.com. 1098 00:55:18,282 --> 00:55:21,650 He was charged with conspiracy, identity theft and extortion. 1099 00:55:21,652 --> 00:55:23,619 She had never sent the picture to anyone. 1100 00:55:23,621 --> 00:55:27,323 She had taken the pictures alone in her room with her cellphone in the mirror, 1101 00:55:27,325 --> 00:55:31,560 and sent them through her e-mail to get them to her computer 'cause she wanted to save them. 1102 00:55:31,562 --> 00:55:35,297 And one was topless 'cause she had over 100 clothed pictures in that batch. 1103 00:55:35,299 --> 00:55:38,267 The photos came from ex-boyfriends or were hacked. 1104 00:55:38,269 --> 00:55:40,502 All of them included the woman's full name, 1105 00:55:40,504 --> 00:55:43,939 location, age, and Facebook profile link. 1106 00:55:43,941 --> 00:55:47,109 When women would complain, they were sent to Bollaert's other site. 1107 00:55:47,111 --> 00:55:51,013 Bollaert then charged women up to $350 1108 00:55:51,015 --> 00:55:56,151 to have the photos removed through his second website called changemyreputation.com. 1109 00:55:57,221 --> 00:56:01,123 There was a situation where, um, I was in a long... 1110 00:56:01,125 --> 00:56:04,827 Well, not a long-distance relationship, but I was traveling a lot. 1111 00:56:04,829 --> 00:56:07,930 And, um, we had a very rocky relationship. 1112 00:56:07,932 --> 00:56:09,531 There wasn't a lot of trust, 1113 00:56:09,533 --> 00:56:14,737 and, um, we would just, sort of, breaking up on and off all the time. 1114 00:56:14,739 --> 00:56:16,372 It wasn't the best. 1115 00:56:16,374 --> 00:56:18,440 Our relationship was lacking a lot of, 1116 00:56:18,442 --> 00:56:21,677 you know, love, passion and respect, unfortunately. 1117 00:56:21,679 --> 00:56:24,580 Um, I wish things could've been different, but they weren't. 1118 00:56:24,582 --> 00:56:27,149 Um, however, every now and then, 1119 00:56:27,151 --> 00:56:29,885 he would ask me to send a picture of myself to him. 1120 00:56:29,887 --> 00:56:32,287 And I'd just be like, "Oh, babe, I look like crap. 1121 00:56:32,289 --> 00:56:34,623 "I don't have makeup on. I look gross. 1122 00:56:34,625 --> 00:56:38,260 "I feel gross. I'm tired. I'm just gonna go to bed." Something like that. 1123 00:56:38,262 --> 00:56:40,896 And then I would get a text message back saying, 1124 00:56:40,898 --> 00:56:43,866 "I know that you're probably... You probably just don't love me." 1125 00:56:43,868 --> 00:56:45,367 "You're probably with somebody else." 1126 00:56:45,369 --> 00:56:47,636 And that was the kind of guilt trip I would get. 1127 00:56:47,638 --> 00:56:51,840 And I just like, click, you know. 1128 00:56:51,842 --> 00:56:53,041 "Here you go, babe." 1129 00:56:53,043 --> 00:56:54,943 I was dating a guy for a year. 1130 00:56:54,945 --> 00:56:57,479 We moved really fast. I moved in with him, 1131 00:56:57,481 --> 00:57:02,017 um, and, you know, even we didn't sext before 1132 00:57:02,019 --> 00:57:03,786 we even got into the relationship. 1133 00:57:03,788 --> 00:57:05,654 That wasn't even, like, part of it. 1134 00:57:05,656 --> 00:57:09,158 Uh, we didn't even have sex until a few months into our relationship. 1135 00:57:09,160 --> 00:57:11,894 Once I felt more comfortable, I was like, "Eh, why not?" 1136 00:57:11,896 --> 00:57:17,032 You know, I literally sent him just of ton of, you know, photos of me 1137 00:57:17,034 --> 00:57:19,334 while he was at work and stuff like that. 1138 00:57:19,336 --> 00:57:22,805 I ended up on a revenge site for exes. 1139 00:57:22,807 --> 00:57:26,442 It's one that's specifically designed for people to submit pictures of their exes, 1140 00:57:26,444 --> 00:57:29,745 or people that, you know, they have beef with. 1141 00:57:29,747 --> 00:57:31,313 And of their private parts. 1142 00:57:31,315 --> 00:57:33,949 Your social media addresses are up there. 1143 00:57:33,951 --> 00:57:35,317 They can't put your phone number. 1144 00:57:35,319 --> 00:57:38,153 They can't put your address, and things like that up there, 1145 00:57:38,155 --> 00:57:40,155 but they can put photos of your face. 1146 00:57:40,157 --> 00:57:41,790 Photos of your body. 1147 00:57:41,792 --> 00:57:43,826 And then they can give a little description, 1148 00:57:43,828 --> 00:57:46,395 say anything that they want about you. 1149 00:57:46,397 --> 00:57:48,096 Anything at all. 1150 00:57:48,098 --> 00:57:52,367 After we broke up, um, he made a fake profile of me online, 1151 00:57:52,369 --> 00:57:56,505 and actually showed all of my nude photos and sent them out to everyone. 1152 00:57:56,507 --> 00:57:59,308 My family members, my friends. 1153 00:57:59,310 --> 00:58:01,577 Basically, just everyone on there, 1154 00:58:01,579 --> 00:58:03,679 It was just really humiliating for me. 1155 00:58:03,681 --> 00:58:06,081 Especially after finding that I... 1156 00:58:06,083 --> 00:58:08,884 I was getting texts from different people saying like, 1157 00:58:08,886 --> 00:58:12,387 "Oh, we received your, you know, photos and stuff." 1158 00:58:12,389 --> 00:58:16,225 I was in love with this guy. I trusted him with everything 1159 00:58:16,227 --> 00:58:18,393 when I sent those photos as well. 1160 00:58:18,395 --> 00:58:20,729 I didn't even think that after we broke up 1161 00:58:20,731 --> 00:58:24,299 that he would, you know, make that profile and put those photos up there. 1162 00:58:24,301 --> 00:58:26,268 At the time... 1163 00:58:26,270 --> 00:58:28,704 At the time, I was out of town, 1164 00:58:28,706 --> 00:58:32,774 and when I kept getting all these links from people, 1165 00:58:32,776 --> 00:58:35,043 these strange men on Facebook. 1166 00:58:35,045 --> 00:58:38,380 And they were telling me my pictures were up there. 1167 00:58:38,382 --> 00:58:41,550 I, um... I wanted to die. 1168 00:58:41,552 --> 00:58:45,921 Like, I just couldn't believe that this had happened to me, 1169 00:58:45,923 --> 00:58:48,524 and now my life was over, 1170 00:58:48,526 --> 00:58:52,494 and people were, you know, not gonna take me seriously. 1171 00:58:52,496 --> 00:58:57,165 I won't ever have, like, a future with a guy who'll take me seriously now. 1172 00:58:57,167 --> 00:58:59,401 I called a couple of friends and talked to them 1173 00:58:59,403 --> 00:59:00,969 so that they could talk me off the ledge. 1174 00:59:00,971 --> 00:59:03,171 Not that I was actually gonna kill myself, 1175 00:59:03,173 --> 00:59:05,874 but it was something I was contemplating. 1176 00:59:05,876 --> 00:59:07,910 I, honestly, after that situation, 1177 00:59:07,912 --> 00:59:10,078 I locked myself in my room for days at a time. 1178 00:59:10,080 --> 00:59:11,914 I didn't wanna go out and stuff like that. 1179 00:59:11,916 --> 00:59:15,684 But I think if, you know, you're in high school or junior high, 1180 00:59:15,686 --> 00:59:18,720 um, you have to show up to school and you have to face those people. 1181 00:59:18,722 --> 00:59:22,558 That emotional toll, I can't even like wrap my mind around that. 1182 00:59:22,560 --> 00:59:24,159 How am I gonna find love 1183 00:59:24,161 --> 00:59:28,931 when the man that would want to marry me or be with me has to see that, 1184 00:59:28,933 --> 00:59:30,866 or has to deal with it, too? 1185 00:59:39,777 --> 00:59:43,979 "I have a lady coming to paint kids' faces and do balloon anals." 1186 00:59:43,981 --> 00:59:48,350 "I mean, balloon animals, not balloon anals. OMG." 1187 00:59:48,352 --> 00:59:50,419 "I don't want a balloon anal." 1188 00:59:52,256 --> 00:59:55,591 You know, you can have a really good job doing a balloon anal. 1189 00:59:55,593 --> 00:59:57,659 From Mexico to Utah. 1190 00:59:57,661 --> 00:59:59,261 This one, it's a good one. 1191 00:59:59,263 --> 01:00:01,630 "You should come over and play with my titties." 1192 01:00:01,632 --> 01:00:02,798 "I'm coming over." 1193 01:00:02,800 --> 01:00:05,834 Five exclamation points and a big, old smiley face. 1194 01:00:05,836 --> 01:00:07,970 "Kitties. I meant kitties." 1195 01:00:07,972 --> 01:00:10,505 "Damn, Autocorrect, you just ruined my life." 1196 01:00:10,507 --> 01:00:13,875 That's a big-time failure of Autocorrect right there. 1197 01:00:13,877 --> 01:00:16,445 Got his hopes all up, next thing you know, 1198 01:00:16,447 --> 01:00:18,814 he's got kittens instead of titties. 1199 01:00:18,816 --> 01:00:20,649 See, that would be my sexting experience. 1200 01:00:20,651 --> 01:00:22,301 I'd get it all wrong. 1201 01:00:22,302 --> 01:00:23,952 I'd get all excited about the titties, I end up with the kitties. 1202 01:00:23,954 --> 01:00:26,088 That's why I'm not big into sexting, right there. 1203 01:00:26,090 --> 01:00:30,959 "My god! All I can think about is nuzzling my nose and mouth in your pussy," 1204 01:00:30,961 --> 01:00:33,528 "and plunging my coco in your honey bowl." 1205 01:00:34,798 --> 01:00:38,333 I like that "coco" is the problem they had with this one. 1206 01:00:38,335 --> 01:00:41,470 Like, "honey bowl," no problem with that. 1207 01:00:41,472 --> 01:00:45,240 "Nuzzling my nose into your pussy"? 1208 01:00:45,242 --> 01:00:47,743 "Plunging my cock into your honey bowl"? 1209 01:00:47,745 --> 01:00:49,177 Honey bowl? 1210 01:00:49,179 --> 01:00:51,246 Honey bowl? I can't... 1211 01:00:51,248 --> 01:00:53,515 "No, seriously, tie me down." 1212 01:00:53,517 --> 01:00:55,584 "I also want some sort of pie." 1213 01:00:55,586 --> 01:00:58,587 "Like, dessert pie. Can we also have some whipped cream?" 1214 01:00:59,690 --> 01:01:02,491 "I'll tie you down and rub cherry pie all over you." 1215 01:01:02,493 --> 01:01:06,928 "I'm gonna shove a cheesecake so deep inside of you, you'll moo." 1216 01:01:06,930 --> 01:01:10,132 "Now I realize why I feel off kilter." 1217 01:01:10,134 --> 01:01:12,568 "Why?" 1218 01:01:12,569 --> 01:01:15,003 "My office cock has not been adjusted for the time change." 1219 01:01:15,005 --> 01:01:19,841 "OMFG, my office dock. Ha, ha, ha." 1220 01:01:19,843 --> 01:01:21,677 "Mom's cell." 1221 01:01:21,679 --> 01:01:23,178 "Hi, Dan, guess what?" 1222 01:01:23,180 --> 01:01:26,782 "The deer are in the back yard. I just fed..." 1223 01:01:29,119 --> 01:01:31,653 "I just fed one of them out of my vagina." 1224 01:01:31,655 --> 01:01:33,455 "Ignore that last sentence." 1225 01:01:33,457 --> 01:01:36,692 "I just fed one of the deer out of my vagina." 1226 01:01:36,694 --> 01:01:40,262 "Out of my veranda. My phone won't let me spell it." 1227 01:01:40,264 --> 01:01:42,497 "LOL. Be careful, Mom." 1228 01:01:42,499 --> 01:01:44,833 Uh, okay. A couple of things about this one. 1229 01:01:44,835 --> 01:01:48,537 Uh, she typed it twice. She meant to say vagina. Right? 1230 01:01:48,539 --> 01:01:51,306 Two, no one says "veranda." 1231 01:01:51,308 --> 01:01:54,242 This isn't 15th century Italy. 1232 01:01:54,244 --> 01:01:56,278 You don't have a veranda. You have a fucking porch. 1233 01:01:56,280 --> 01:01:59,414 "Don't do too much today. Stay home and rest." 1234 01:01:59,416 --> 01:02:02,718 "I left orange juice and chicken soup in the fridge." 1235 01:02:02,720 --> 01:02:08,090 "And I put tissues by the bed in case you need to blow your load. Love, Mom." 1236 01:02:08,092 --> 01:02:11,727 God, that is just such a great mom. Happy Mother's Day to her. 1237 01:02:14,398 --> 01:02:17,265 I do. I please myself when I interact with my fans. 1238 01:02:17,267 --> 01:02:22,070 I use social media, and I take pictures on my cellphone for them. 1239 01:02:22,072 --> 01:02:23,238 You use Twitter? 1240 01:02:23,240 --> 01:02:25,340 Mm-hmm. Absolutely I use Twitter. 1241 01:02:25,342 --> 01:02:30,879 I get the most comments and interaction with my fans when I take selfies, 1242 01:02:30,881 --> 01:02:33,949 as opposed to professional pictures from my shoots. 1243 01:02:35,018 --> 01:02:39,221 Hey, guys, it's Summer Brielle, and I'm here on set 1244 01:02:39,223 --> 01:02:42,390 shooting some brand-new sexy stuff for you. 1245 01:02:42,392 --> 01:02:45,293 Hope you like my little outfit. 1246 01:02:47,698 --> 01:02:50,065 You know, if I'm on set or if I am out of the shower, 1247 01:02:50,067 --> 01:02:51,333 I like to take little teaser pictures 1248 01:02:51,335 --> 01:02:53,602 and, you know, post them on Twitter. 1249 01:02:53,604 --> 01:02:56,404 You know, I like to get in on... What is it? 1250 01:02:56,406 --> 01:03:01,276 Thirsty Thursdays and, you know, Wet Wednesdays, and all that fun stuff. 1251 01:03:01,278 --> 01:03:05,013 I noticed there's something about the personal interaction 1252 01:03:05,015 --> 01:03:07,783 of the selfies. Guys love them. 1253 01:03:07,785 --> 01:03:09,985 I mean, I hope they beat their little brains out to them. 1254 01:03:09,987 --> 01:03:11,753 I mainly get asked for selfies by fans. 1255 01:03:11,755 --> 01:03:14,289 No one who knows me in person has ever been like, "Hey, can I have a pic?" 1256 01:03:14,291 --> 01:03:16,491 And, you know, for a fan, it's personal. 1257 01:03:16,493 --> 01:03:19,628 It's something that I probably made just for them. 1258 01:03:19,630 --> 01:03:22,430 I feel like social media, sometimes, 1259 01:03:22,432 --> 01:03:25,801 are haters against us girls in the adult industry 1260 01:03:25,803 --> 01:03:27,869 because of the racy things that some people... 1261 01:03:27,871 --> 01:03:29,337 They don't follow guidelines and stuff. 1262 01:03:29,339 --> 01:03:32,407 But then you get fans that have like, 1263 01:03:32,409 --> 01:03:34,876 either me getting fucked, or something as their avie. 1264 01:03:34,878 --> 01:03:36,444 And I'm like, "How can you get away with this?" 1265 01:03:36,446 --> 01:03:37,946 Or they'll send you a dick picture. 1266 01:03:37,948 --> 01:03:42,450 I'm like, "How do you get that, and I get flagged or reported?" 1267 01:03:42,452 --> 01:03:45,220 Life of a pornstar. What're you gonna do? 1268 01:03:45,222 --> 01:03:49,191 I think that cellphones have impacted... 1269 01:03:49,193 --> 01:03:52,794 And Twitter, and Instagram, and Facebook have impacted 1270 01:03:52,796 --> 01:03:54,329 the adult industry in a huge way. 1271 01:03:54,331 --> 01:03:57,899 And I think, definitely, having personal interaction with our fans, 1272 01:03:57,901 --> 01:04:00,669 and them feeling like they can connect with us more personally 1273 01:04:00,671 --> 01:04:02,504 is more important than ever. 1274 01:04:02,506 --> 01:04:05,340 And it's only gonna be more important. 1275 01:04:05,342 --> 01:04:07,375 It's not gonna back away from that. 1276 01:04:07,377 --> 01:04:12,147 A more intimate relationship with our fans as a result of cellphones, 1277 01:04:12,149 --> 01:04:15,383 and I think it's only gonna grow more in that direction. 1278 01:04:15,385 --> 01:04:17,152 I have Snapchat I've used. 1279 01:04:17,154 --> 01:04:18,987 Um, it's fun to send little videos, 1280 01:04:18,989 --> 01:04:20,889 but I actually work with a company 1281 01:04:20,891 --> 01:04:22,557 that sells access to my Snapchat. 1282 01:04:22,559 --> 01:04:24,599 So that was my first time ever using it. 1283 01:04:25,429 --> 01:04:27,395 Hi. Does this make you horny? 1284 01:04:27,397 --> 01:04:29,431 Are you gonna come play with me later? 1285 01:04:30,834 --> 01:04:34,102 You know, I try to create content that goes with that. 1286 01:04:34,104 --> 01:04:36,872 Half kind of getting to know me better and half "this is dirty." 1287 01:04:36,874 --> 01:04:38,657 Um, it's kinda hot. 1288 01:04:38,658 --> 01:04:40,441 It's kinda hot being able to take your phone and being able to be like, 1289 01:04:40,444 --> 01:04:43,378 "All right, I got 10 seconds to waste. I'll do 10 seconds on my phone." 1290 01:04:43,380 --> 01:04:47,749 Yeah, InstaDM has definitely, um, made a lot of dick pics 1291 01:04:47,751 --> 01:04:50,118 happen in my life the last couple of months. 1292 01:04:50,120 --> 01:04:53,388 So, um, I've seen some interesting things to say the least. 1293 01:04:53,390 --> 01:04:55,290 And the funny part with that is that 1294 01:04:55,292 --> 01:04:57,792 they can actually see when you see their picture, 1295 01:04:57,794 --> 01:05:00,262 but I never comment back, which is hilarious. 1296 01:05:00,264 --> 01:05:02,597 And they're always like, "Come on, I know you saw it." 1297 01:05:02,599 --> 01:05:05,567 And I'm like, "I don't care. I'm just laughing at you." 1298 01:05:05,569 --> 01:05:09,271 Sometimes you may correspond with someone you may never meet. 1299 01:05:09,273 --> 01:05:14,910 So it's really fun to have that person you text once a day something dirty. 1300 01:05:14,912 --> 01:05:17,812 And then, you know, you go on with your life. 1301 01:05:17,814 --> 01:05:19,781 You're not expecting to actually meet this person. 1302 01:05:19,783 --> 01:05:21,950 You don't have a planned date where you're gonna meet this person 1303 01:05:21,952 --> 01:05:24,269 and have sex with this person. 1304 01:05:24,270 --> 01:05:26,587 But you might have a couple of times a day where you text this person. 1305 01:05:26,590 --> 01:05:28,290 You maybe in another country. 1306 01:05:28,292 --> 01:05:29,991 You know, she maybe in another country. 1307 01:05:29,993 --> 01:05:35,430 Always constantly posting pictures on Twitter and Instagram, 1308 01:05:35,432 --> 01:05:37,365 but mostly Twitter, nude ones. 1309 01:05:37,367 --> 01:05:39,935 Especially before I'm gonna do Skype shows, 1310 01:05:39,937 --> 01:05:43,972 or I'm gonna jump on cam and stuff, 1311 01:05:43,974 --> 01:05:46,074 but I'm always posting sexy pictures. 1312 01:05:46,076 --> 01:05:50,045 I'm just in the shower... The bathtub. 1313 01:05:52,449 --> 01:05:57,319 I'm gonna get all nice and wet for you. 1314 01:05:58,622 --> 01:06:01,656 Just thought you'd appreciate a little video. 1315 01:06:02,793 --> 01:06:05,593 I had Snapchat before, but I got rid of it 1316 01:06:05,595 --> 01:06:08,964 'cause, um, the only person that was Snapchatting me was my best friend. 1317 01:06:08,966 --> 01:06:11,499 And she was Snapchatting me pictures of food all the time. 1318 01:06:11,501 --> 01:06:13,368 So it didn't work out. 1319 01:06:19,776 --> 01:06:22,210 There's no more, uh, innuendo. 1320 01:06:22,212 --> 01:06:25,146 There's no more, uh, real man's flirtation. 1321 01:06:25,148 --> 01:06:28,683 It's right in your face. It's right on your phone, and you can show your buddies. 1322 01:06:28,685 --> 01:06:31,186 We've just evolved, you know. 1323 01:06:31,188 --> 01:06:34,889 Evolved to a Retina Display that can show intricate details, 1324 01:06:34,891 --> 01:06:39,694 and you can really make out what a penis looks like and what comes out of it. 1325 01:06:39,696 --> 01:06:41,997 A new app called Sex With Google Glass 1326 01:06:41,999 --> 01:06:43,732 is set to hit your face in the near future, 1327 01:06:43,734 --> 01:06:47,769 and the makers hope you'll indulge as a way to see sex from a new perspective. 1328 01:06:47,771 --> 01:06:50,138 - What are those things on your face? - These? This is Google Glass. 1329 01:06:50,140 --> 01:06:51,373 You want to try 'em? 1330 01:06:51,375 --> 01:06:53,174 - Absolutely. - Okay. 1331 01:06:55,512 --> 01:06:57,012 That's pretty cool. 1332 01:06:57,014 --> 01:06:58,913 What type of apps are you guys doing for this? 1333 01:06:58,915 --> 01:07:00,582 Pornify everything. 1334 01:07:03,653 --> 01:07:07,455 Our obsession with imagery right now is 10X. 1335 01:07:07,457 --> 01:07:12,660 It's why we have to make such grand experiential things and go bigger and bigger. 1336 01:07:12,662 --> 01:07:15,330 Because with the consumers expecting more and more of that, 1337 01:07:15,332 --> 01:07:16,931 they want to fall into fantasy. 1338 01:07:16,933 --> 01:07:19,534 And so we have to build the construct in what they live. 1339 01:07:19,536 --> 01:07:22,203 I mean, it's very Matrix like if anything. 1340 01:07:22,205 --> 01:07:24,372 Giving out tips. Are you kidding me? 1341 01:07:24,374 --> 01:07:25,840 - I know. - It's more than just that. 1342 01:07:25,842 --> 01:07:27,142 I can see all sorts of stuff. 1343 01:07:27,144 --> 01:07:29,477 In my fucking cunt. 1344 01:07:29,479 --> 01:07:30,912 Yeah. 1345 01:07:30,914 --> 01:07:33,815 - Oh, the definition of cunt just popped up. - Oh, wow. 1346 01:07:33,817 --> 01:07:38,753 Even Ashley Madison has it's own casual sex finder app. 1347 01:07:38,755 --> 01:07:40,555 And I think what that shows 1348 01:07:40,557 --> 01:07:43,324 is a shift in the online dating market. 1349 01:07:43,326 --> 01:07:46,594 So is it gonna be too much of a surprise 1350 01:07:46,596 --> 01:07:50,598 to see eHarmony, to see Match, or even JDate 1351 01:07:50,600 --> 01:07:53,701 start their own mobile dating apps 1352 01:07:53,703 --> 01:07:57,072 based off of location and NFC capabilities? 1353 01:07:57,074 --> 01:07:58,139 Not at all. 1354 01:07:58,141 --> 01:07:59,941 In order to keep paid users, 1355 01:07:59,943 --> 01:08:04,479 they're gonna have to evolve to where their users are now going. 1356 01:08:04,481 --> 01:08:09,651 I think I read recently that it's one in eight couples that marry 1357 01:08:09,653 --> 01:08:12,053 meet on online dating sites. 1358 01:08:12,055 --> 01:08:13,588 Which is pretty extraordinary. 1359 01:08:13,590 --> 01:08:15,824 Literally, there is something for everybody out there. 1360 01:08:15,826 --> 01:08:17,892 There are so many people that are out there 1361 01:08:17,894 --> 01:08:20,095 that felt like there was something wrong with them, 1362 01:08:20,097 --> 01:08:23,932 because they felt like there was no one else like them out there, 1363 01:08:23,934 --> 01:08:25,567 and now they can go online 1364 01:08:25,569 --> 01:08:27,602 and they can type in whatever their fetish is, 1365 01:08:27,604 --> 01:08:29,938 or their kink, or something, 1366 01:08:29,940 --> 01:08:32,006 and they can find like-minded people. 1367 01:08:32,008 --> 01:08:35,577 Hinge, Skout, and even Pure 1368 01:08:35,579 --> 01:08:38,780 allow people to find casual sex, 1369 01:08:38,782 --> 01:08:42,217 BDSM hookups, threesomes, 1370 01:08:42,219 --> 01:08:46,721 and a host of other things that fit their sexual needs. 1371 01:08:46,723 --> 01:08:48,289 You know, the recession is over. 1372 01:08:48,291 --> 01:08:49,824 The economy is coming back. 1373 01:08:49,826 --> 01:08:53,194 People have been restricted in what they spend, what they indulge in. 1374 01:08:53,196 --> 01:08:55,730 And we're about to get a little bit more hedonistic these days. 1375 01:08:55,732 --> 01:08:59,067 Technology and sexuality really go hand in hand. 1376 01:08:59,069 --> 01:09:02,137 And I think the bigger question is, the chicken or the egg? 1377 01:09:02,139 --> 01:09:07,208 Is the technology there and it causes people to behave more sexually? 1378 01:09:07,210 --> 01:09:09,144 Or are we sexual people 1379 01:09:09,146 --> 01:09:12,514 and that technology is being created to cater to our sexuality? 1380 01:09:12,516 --> 01:09:15,150 When we used to look at technology use, 1381 01:09:15,152 --> 01:09:17,652 um, we used to think that they would eventually... 1382 01:09:17,654 --> 01:09:20,488 Any technology there would become a backlash, 1383 01:09:20,490 --> 01:09:22,891 and people would start to use it too much, 1384 01:09:22,893 --> 01:09:25,059 and then go, "Oh, no. That's enough." 1385 01:09:25,061 --> 01:09:28,181 And yet, we haven't seen that with any of the major technologies. 1386 01:09:33,270 --> 01:09:35,336 I text with a lot of people. 1387 01:09:35,338 --> 01:09:39,073 Women have never sent me, like... 1388 01:09:39,075 --> 01:09:40,942 What are they called? Emoticons or emojis? 1389 01:09:40,944 --> 01:09:42,143 Is that what they're called, emojis? 1390 01:09:42,145 --> 01:09:44,712 Women don't send emojis. Dudes send emojis. 1391 01:09:44,714 --> 01:09:47,015 Which is really disturbing. 1392 01:09:47,017 --> 01:09:48,850 I don't like them. 1393 01:09:48,852 --> 01:09:50,718 Um, I think they're weird, 1394 01:09:50,720 --> 01:09:55,490 and they definitely should not be involved in a sext situation. 1395 01:09:55,492 --> 01:09:57,458 Like, um, 1396 01:09:57,460 --> 01:09:59,093 my boyfriend sends me eggplants. 1397 01:10:00,897 --> 01:10:03,665 Purple eggplants, as if he has a big black dick. 1398 01:10:03,667 --> 01:10:05,833 It's like, you don't have an eggplant. 1399 01:10:05,835 --> 01:10:07,502 I like you and everything, 1400 01:10:07,504 --> 01:10:10,664 but you're Canadian. Like, there's no eggplants involved in this. 1401 01:10:11,775 --> 01:10:14,976 Okay, so this is like the Rorschach test of emojis. 1402 01:10:20,450 --> 01:10:23,451 "Let's get drunk, and make out, and listen to music at the beach"? 1403 01:10:23,453 --> 01:10:25,353 I don't know what that is. 1404 01:10:25,355 --> 01:10:28,957 It's like, "I'm gonna get you drunk and take you to a Micheal Bolton concert" 1405 01:10:28,959 --> 01:10:30,959 "and fuck you while the sun goes down." 1406 01:10:30,961 --> 01:10:34,829 "Let's drink. Let's fuck to music till the sun comes up"? 1407 01:10:34,831 --> 01:10:37,398 "Don't whine while I'm having sex with you." 1408 01:10:37,400 --> 01:10:39,133 Sexy time? 1409 01:10:39,135 --> 01:10:40,368 That's what I said. 1410 01:10:40,370 --> 01:10:42,036 That, that's a "sexy time"? 1411 01:10:42,038 --> 01:10:44,405 Why don't they just write fucking "sexy time"? 1412 01:10:44,407 --> 01:10:45,974 Sexy time. Okay. 1413 01:10:45,976 --> 01:10:47,575 Oh, I get it. 1414 01:10:47,577 --> 01:10:48,776 Well, where's the wine? 1415 01:10:50,380 --> 01:10:52,013 That's a lot of blowjobs. 1416 01:10:52,015 --> 01:10:54,816 All I can tell is that's a lot of blowjobs. 1417 01:10:54,818 --> 01:10:56,751 Is that what it is? It's a lot of blowjobs? 1418 01:10:56,753 --> 01:10:59,220 Oh, that's an "O" face. You had five orgasms. Good for you. 1419 01:10:59,222 --> 01:11:03,491 "Five faces of people..." 1420 01:11:03,493 --> 01:11:05,593 You know what? I know what that is. 1421 01:11:05,595 --> 01:11:07,662 You see what that is? Five people with their mouths going... 1422 01:11:07,664 --> 01:11:09,497 "What the fuck are you talking about?" 1423 01:11:09,499 --> 01:11:12,634 "I can't believe... This is horrifying." 1424 01:11:12,636 --> 01:11:13,468 That's what that says. 1425 01:11:13,470 --> 01:11:14,502 Blowjob. 1426 01:11:14,504 --> 01:11:16,437 "Blowjob"? 1427 01:11:16,439 --> 01:11:18,640 It's a fucking job to figure out what that says. 1428 01:11:18,642 --> 01:11:20,775 All right. Now, I see those two peaches again. 1429 01:11:20,777 --> 01:11:22,310 It's somebody clapping. 1430 01:11:22,312 --> 01:11:23,711 "Make it clap." 1431 01:11:23,713 --> 01:11:25,046 "Make it clap." 1432 01:11:25,048 --> 01:11:27,315 That thing where they put their butts together. 1433 01:11:27,317 --> 01:11:29,997 Uh, the single butt. One butt. Is that it? 1434 01:11:30,687 --> 01:11:32,854 Okay. Double ass... Double penetration. 1435 01:11:32,856 --> 01:11:38,059 Double... Oh, oh. "Let's DP and then pray." 1436 01:11:38,061 --> 01:11:41,863 Okay. Now, this is two peaches and a fortune cookie. 1437 01:11:41,865 --> 01:11:43,998 Is that a fortune cookie? 1438 01:11:44,000 --> 01:11:46,734 Two hands? Oh, those are two hands. 1439 01:11:46,736 --> 01:11:49,404 Um, you know, who the fuck thought that up? 1440 01:11:49,406 --> 01:11:50,705 I mean, Jesus, second base. 1441 01:11:50,707 --> 01:11:52,907 Why don't just put a fucking baseball diamond 1442 01:11:52,909 --> 01:11:56,177 and put a base in second base? 1443 01:11:56,179 --> 01:11:57,779 I mean, why two peaches? 1444 01:12:00,650 --> 01:12:02,610 It's the end of the world, you know. 1445 01:12:03,987 --> 01:12:05,920 Is that a piece of pizza? 1446 01:12:05,922 --> 01:12:08,289 'Cause if it is, I'm in with the purple dick. 1447 01:12:08,291 --> 01:12:11,159 I would eat the pizza before I took care of the dick. That's what I would do. 1448 01:12:11,161 --> 01:12:13,261 Now, here's my old friend, the eggplant. 1449 01:12:13,263 --> 01:12:16,664 "Every time's a good time when your shit's out"? 1450 01:12:16,666 --> 01:12:17,965 Good sex. 1451 01:12:17,967 --> 01:12:19,834 Good sex? 1452 01:12:19,836 --> 01:12:21,602 Do people believe this? 1453 01:12:21,604 --> 01:12:23,471 Good sex. Okay. You know what? 1454 01:12:23,473 --> 01:12:25,473 Some people keep it simple, you know? 1455 01:12:25,475 --> 01:12:28,543 Seems like it would be quicker to write "good sex." 1456 01:12:31,781 --> 01:12:33,781 That's a smiley happy face, 1457 01:12:33,783 --> 01:12:36,517 but also, the tongue looks like a lady's vagina. 1458 01:12:36,519 --> 01:12:39,821 So, I... 1459 01:12:39,823 --> 01:12:42,023 Eating a girl out? It's eating five girls out. 1460 01:12:42,025 --> 01:12:43,491 It's five happy vaginas. 1461 01:12:46,930 --> 01:12:49,997 That one says "Make sure you bathe before we bump", 1462 01:12:49,999 --> 01:12:51,366 "and bathe afterwards again." 1463 01:12:51,368 --> 01:12:52,633 They must be Catholic. 1464 01:12:52,635 --> 01:12:55,503 "Wash your pussy" 1465 01:12:55,505 --> 01:12:58,573 "before I stick my eggplant" 1466 01:12:58,575 --> 01:13:03,277 "in that big fucking tub of yours." 1467 01:13:03,279 --> 01:13:07,415 You know what? "I'm gonna take a bath with an eggplant up my ass." 1468 01:13:11,287 --> 01:13:15,523 Tub, dick, pussy, shower. 1469 01:13:15,525 --> 01:13:18,426 Um, oh! "Piss on me." 1470 01:13:22,165 --> 01:13:24,732 All right. Now you're getting into my wheel house. 1471 01:13:24,734 --> 01:13:26,467 There's a hand clapping and a horse. 1472 01:13:26,469 --> 01:13:27,769 This is some Alabama shit. 1473 01:13:27,771 --> 01:13:29,804 Um, nope. Whatever it is, I'm not doing it. 1474 01:13:29,806 --> 01:13:31,339 Looks like there's a horse in the situation. 1475 01:13:31,341 --> 01:13:33,408 There's an eggplant, a peach, 1476 01:13:33,410 --> 01:13:36,544 a party hat, a star... 1477 01:13:36,546 --> 01:13:38,279 You know what? I'm gonna tell you what this means. 1478 01:13:38,281 --> 01:13:40,281 This means "I'm so fucking stupid" 1479 01:13:40,283 --> 01:13:41,983 "that I can't call somebody up and say," 1480 01:13:41,985 --> 01:13:43,684 "'Listen, I wanna have sex with you." 1481 01:13:43,686 --> 01:13:46,254 "'I have to send you a bunch of fucking hieroglyphics" 1482 01:13:46,256 --> 01:13:48,623 "'hoping that you can understand what I'm saying to you," 1483 01:13:48,625 --> 01:13:52,059 "'and if you do, then you're just as fucking stupid as I am," 1484 01:13:52,061 --> 01:13:53,561 "'and we should not have kids.'" 1485 01:14:01,471 --> 01:14:05,139 I would say now that I've started to enjoy sexting, 1486 01:14:05,141 --> 01:14:07,909 I'm definitely well on my way of becoming addicted to it. 1487 01:14:07,911 --> 01:14:11,112 I am addicted to sexting. I am. 1488 01:14:11,114 --> 01:14:12,914 Why do you think that? 1489 01:14:12,916 --> 01:14:17,185 Because I do it a lot, and I have fun with it, and I enjoy it. 1490 01:14:17,187 --> 01:14:20,788 I'm not addicted, but I'd probably do it once a week. 1491 01:14:20,790 --> 01:14:23,057 I probably actually do it once a week. Is that an addict? 1492 01:14:23,059 --> 01:14:25,326 I think so. If there's a term of addiction, 1493 01:14:25,328 --> 01:14:27,061 and if it's not drug, it would be that. 1494 01:14:27,063 --> 01:14:29,730 So would you say you're addicted to sexting? 1495 01:14:29,732 --> 01:14:31,299 Absolutely. 1496 01:14:31,301 --> 01:14:32,233 - Absolutely? - Yeah. 1497 01:14:32,235 --> 01:14:35,736 If so, why? Why would you say that? 1498 01:14:35,738 --> 01:14:37,004 It's easy money. 1499 01:14:37,006 --> 01:14:40,174 I wouldn't say I'm addicted to sexting. 1500 01:14:40,176 --> 01:14:42,376 Um, I think there's a lot of people out there 1501 01:14:42,378 --> 01:14:45,746 who have worse addictions than I do. 1502 01:14:45,748 --> 01:14:47,982 I'm not addicted to sexting. 1503 01:14:47,984 --> 01:14:49,484 I can go without sexting, 1504 01:14:49,486 --> 01:14:51,552 but I definitely couldn't tweet without sexting. 1505 01:14:51,554 --> 01:14:53,187 So, I don't know. 1506 01:14:53,189 --> 01:14:57,525 I guess I might have to admit my addiction, right here, now. 1507 01:14:57,527 --> 01:14:59,794 Addiction is a bio-chemical issue. 1508 01:14:59,796 --> 01:15:02,797 It's the brain's need for dopamine. 1509 01:15:02,799 --> 01:15:05,566 And so, we see it, for example, with video game players 1510 01:15:05,568 --> 01:15:08,569 that they play to get a squirt of dopamine in their head 1511 01:15:08,571 --> 01:15:10,238 to make them feel pleasure. 1512 01:15:10,240 --> 01:15:13,774 The Internet itself is neural stimuli. 1513 01:15:13,776 --> 01:15:16,944 It can ensnare you in a dopamine loop. 1514 01:15:16,946 --> 01:15:19,780 Whether you're on something as simple as Pinterest, 1515 01:15:19,782 --> 01:15:22,884 which you pin and pin and react and act and act, 1516 01:15:22,886 --> 01:15:24,318 and you're falling down a rabbit hole 1517 01:15:24,320 --> 01:15:26,280 because it's stimulating your mind. 1518 01:15:28,057 --> 01:15:30,091 An addiction is only an addiction 1519 01:15:30,093 --> 01:15:32,193 if it's interfering with other parts of your life. 1520 01:15:32,195 --> 01:15:35,730 When we talk about sexting or any technology, 1521 01:15:35,732 --> 01:15:41,469 there's really no, uh, disorder for technological addiction. 1522 01:15:41,471 --> 01:15:44,672 We suggest that people take breaks from their devices. 1523 01:15:44,674 --> 01:15:47,008 Even turn them off for a while. 1524 01:15:47,010 --> 01:15:49,710 Definitely not have them on in the middle of the night, 1525 01:15:49,712 --> 01:15:53,948 so that you're not getting alerts and rings, you know, while you're sleeping. 1526 01:15:53,950 --> 01:15:56,551 And during the day, try to minimize 1527 01:15:56,553 --> 01:15:58,986 the number of times that you're checking your phone. 1528 01:15:58,988 --> 01:16:01,656 If it's not a problem, don't treat it as a problem. 1529 01:16:01,658 --> 01:16:05,293 So if people are sexting and there's no negativity about it in their lives 1530 01:16:05,295 --> 01:16:06,460 and they're happy about it, 1531 01:16:06,462 --> 01:16:08,095 it's something they don't need to be focused on. 1532 01:16:08,097 --> 01:16:10,598 If sexting makes you feel pleasure 1533 01:16:10,600 --> 01:16:14,802 and you're doing it because you constantly need that replenishment of pleasure, 1534 01:16:14,804 --> 01:16:17,605 but you can only get it through sexting, then it's problematic. 1535 01:16:17,607 --> 01:16:20,942 And so, if you're addicted to the sexting part, that's not a good thing. 1536 01:16:20,944 --> 01:16:25,379 Because that means you're not carrying it over into your sexual relationship, 1537 01:16:25,381 --> 01:16:27,481 and it's a tool in and of itself. 1538 01:16:27,483 --> 01:16:33,554 For many people, particularly their smart phone is an object of obsession. 1539 01:16:33,556 --> 01:16:35,289 We're noticing in our research, 1540 01:16:35,291 --> 01:16:38,593 more and more people are carrying their phone in their hand all day long. 1541 01:16:38,595 --> 01:16:40,595 Not relegating it to their pocket anymore, 1542 01:16:40,597 --> 01:16:42,396 but carrying it close at hand 1543 01:16:42,398 --> 01:16:44,465 so they can feel that buzz, that vibration. 1544 01:16:44,467 --> 01:16:46,367 So they can get it immediately. 1545 01:16:46,369 --> 01:16:48,469 What we're really seeing, as a race, 1546 01:16:48,471 --> 01:16:50,371 being totally consumed 1547 01:16:50,373 --> 01:16:53,140 by our ability to connect to another person 1548 01:16:53,142 --> 01:16:56,377 through a little box we carry 24/7, 365. 1549 01:17:01,317 --> 01:17:17,385 Hope it helped -> bozxphd